If I become a kinder person,will it benefit me psychologically?

Answer 1

You will feel better about the things you do, but get dumped on a lot more, because as a kinder person you will help or understand, so people won't feel so bad if they let you down.

Answer 2

You are much kinder then you think. The only thing you have to do is control you Ego from time to time - and you'll see the psychological and other benefits straight away. If being a kinder person means to think of others a bit more then you do now; others - the people you love and who love you; it also means to get more harmony and balance between you and the world around you. The benefits are obvious, I guess. And it is pretty easy to achieve, little by little, let it be.

Answer 3

Very good question you asked. Answer to your question is in YES.

Before you talk about psychologically I think I should tell you about mind.

Remember what ever we do and achieve is the result of our thoughts. Therefore it is said think good, there is a Chinese saying if you want to kill someone dig two graves.

We have conscious mind and subconscious mind. It works like a computer. If we think something in real that goes from conscious mind to subconscious mind and become reality.

In short as you said, if you become kinder person will it benefit you psychologically? In every way you will have benefit.
Have you ever heard the following when we are child elder often say.
Do good
Think good
Do not hurt anyone
Do not lie etc. etc.

When you will change your self to a kinder person, your subconscious mind will generate positive result and your life will be very very good.

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I wish you success.

Answer 4

If you act kinder it'll eventually change your personality to a kinder person. As a kinder person you're less likely to be affected by things that originally made you anger or distressed which can keep you in a more joyful and more peaceful state of mind, benefiting greatly psychologically.

Answer 5

Does kindness really exist? Do we really do things for the benefit of others or ourselves? If a crying baby gets our attention do we change its messy nappy/diaper because we are altruistically choosing to help a person who can only cry and do nothing else for themselves, because we fear the guilt tripping caused by neglect or because of a learned rule in our heads - we must/have to? Or because we want the poor babe to go to sleep so we can get some shut-eye too? Are we escaping a negative situation or moving towards a positive outcome? For whom?

Ask yourself, "In what way might I become kinder?" "How will it benefit me exactly?"

If you become kinder in a way that does not interfere with other peoples capacity to help themselves or render them helpless when they can do for themselves you will avoid their wrath when they realise they have been made a victim by someone with helper's syndrome. The ardent helper can often end up being scorned or feeling scornful and muttering "I was only trying to help! Some people are very ungrateful indeed!" or walking away thinking, "I am doing way, way too much for them. They haven't lifted a finger since I bought them that car! From now on they can get stuffed!" In these cases we are actually furthering our own psychological agendas rather than providing help.

As for me, the bottom line is, we need many many more sensible kind people in the world with loving kindness. Rather than giving a man a fish we should teach him to fish himself if need be and then let him fish by himself. Treating everyone as an equal with power and potential to act for themselves could be construed as great kindness. If we free ourselves of our own hidden agendas and stop rescuing, bullying and becoming the victim we will indeed become happier because we can retain our own power and yet genuinely help others while not getting embroiled.

Seeing the situation from your own, the other party's and a neutral observers perspectives in turns works wonders to find out what to do.

Answer 6

I think that you may feel better, because you may want to help people out more and could get positive recognition for it. But remember that some people will mistake your kindness for weakness.

So if you are trying to be a kinder person, just remember that there are still times when you need to be assertive.

Answer 7

While being a kinder person makes you feel good there is a tendency for people to recognise this and take advantage of you. I am like that and sometimes it does my head in so in answer to your question it is certainly beneficial to character building but of little help to you psychologically. This is purely my own view.

Answer 8

it's an old prverb my mentor once told me, it means that though you change yourself for the benefit of others it's not really common for it ot benefit you. Most people have never truly understood why they would try to become a kinder perosn because they think it benefits themselves, however it can happen jsut don't misuse it.

the bucket for water shall be mended with care, for a fault may happen when mishandled ignored.

Answer 9

if you have a better outlook on life then you probably will see things in a better light., in the same way as when your down, you instinctively seek out dark music and sad films so you feel justified in feeling down.
. if you strive to be a little kinder, or understanding you will perceive the world in a better way and feel that , yes i am a little happier.
that's not to say you have to change your whole being or your personality.
my motto at the moment is " FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT" this means smiling even if i feel down. searching for the light, making jokes, even laughing at penguins..

Answer 10

I don't know if you can change your basic nature. I do know that you can hide it. I am basically a kind person but let the exigencies of business and everyday life kind of bury it. Lately, I've tried to excavate my original nature...and I'm a much happier person for doing so.

Now, if you're not basically kind to begin with, you can act in a manner that is considerate of others' feelings. Perhaps that is a good thing for the rest of us, but it may not be good for your own psyche.