If you were willing:
What steps would you take?
Could you step away from negative relationships if it meant bettering yourself?
Could you move ot of your home to ensure your safety?
Could you be the "shadow" person and not allow family, friends, co-workers, roommates, bosses, etc to walk all over you.
Or would it be too hard? (Of course it is hard! Change is never easy!)
But, what if you could get away from it all? How happy would you be?
No one is going to listen to you complain forever. Eventually they will be mad at you, because you would rather complain than fix it.
Could you do it? Look towards the future and never look back?
2007-03-23 08:07:28 · 11 answers · asked by Gothic Martha™ 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes, I have done this...and my life got a thousand times better for it...
dwelling on the past does nothing for you..you can't change it...you have to look toward what is possible..not back at the impossible...something that you cannot change......
hindsight is better than foresight...."if I had know now what I knew than"...you learn from past mistakes so that you won't make the same mistakes twice...some people do..others seem to gravitate toward the same path...you have to side step this course and move toward different and better......and your life will be so much better for it........
yes, it is hard to change ones path at the beginning but as time goes on it gets easier and easier..... and it is so worth it.... : )
2007-03-23 08:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No because the past is part of who i am today and who i will be tomorrow. You can't forget about the past, no matter how good or bad it was. It's part of you.
You can move on, though.
And you are right that people will eventually get sick of listening to you complain. You don't have to forget the past to stop complaining about it. Accept what was, realize what you learned from it and step forward.
DO look back every once in a while to see how far you've come and remind yourself not to go back there.
2007-03-23 15:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by ScrabbledEgg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You can move forward and walk away from negative relationships. However negative is arbitrary,- negative to those who would control you or negative to you.Forgive yes,trust,yes, ingage in a positive effort to rebuild and remake your life in a manner that honors God and reflects appreciation for all the beauty, goodness and opportunity to enjoy that is God created. Love God above all else and love your neighbor as yourself and you will abide in safety and find hope springing up new every morning because your faith is in what you have already received from God to be able to accomplish the change you have undergone! So don't look back! You can't change the past! Change and redecorate with joy!
2007-03-23 15:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moral to this story is life does suck, most people that you see or talk to in a day . They are unhappy about one thing or the other, children dying, husband dying, daughter pregnant. Life is full of problems, and we have to decide either we are fighters or losers. I found out late in life that ,even though i thought I had most of what i wanted, I didn't give enough of myself , didn't trust people , didn't make friends, Now I am alot older and find myself alone. And there has been 34 years since I talked to my sister, family is not a must have. There is no one else that you would be around it all they did want hurt your feelings. Life is the best thing that we have going for us. You only live once , so live it.
2007-03-23 15:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I could. I know, because I did it.
The things that helped me most were
(1) not just going away from something bad, but going towards something better. With a clear aim in the future it gets much easier to leave the past behind.
(2) Finding people who supported my change. Luckily I have friends who love me enough not to walk all over me. (For somebody, who has not a single person backing him/her up, walking away will be much harder.)
Looking back is not much of a temptation to me, actually. Thinking of myself as the one who got walked all over, is too hurtful as I'd like to dwell on it for long. In fact, I'm not all to proud of my former self. So keeping the future in mind, is a much more pleasant option.
2007-03-23 15:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by LGM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how much I am "motivated". I wouldn't do something just because someone expects me to do it. I will do it because I feel it in my heart & mind that I should do it. Some things from the past are hard to let go of, others can be forgotten with time....even if right now we think we can't forget. I like to be realistic. My past is a part of me....I can't erase it really, even if I want to.
2007-03-23 17:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is all about choices....and ultimately you have to decide what is best for yourself. Meaning stepping away from negative relationships, people, and situations. As stated above no one is going to listen to you complain about it forever.
2007-03-23 15:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by stunna3m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many questions? YOU used the phrase 'better yourself', yes?
If you are going to 'better' your life, make sure you know it's definitely better. You can judge this quite simply: Any move you make is ALWAYS going to be moulded by your inner resolve ... so stop looking for other people to make your decisions. If you can never trust yourself ... sign up to the Army or a Nunnery. Best of luck
2007-03-23 15:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by rob s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitly easier said than done! Yes but it takes a lot of time and effort on your (my rather) part!
2007-03-23 15:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by babyface78850503 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely i could! I already have and feel much better for it!
2007-03-23 15:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by ohellyesidid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋