it really annoys me when adults treat us teens like we cant be in love. most teens i know just think they are in love but some of us (like me) are actually in love
ive been with my bf for 14 months now and we are very close. however my friend and her bf of 2months think that they are in love which annoys me because teens like them make adults steriotype teens in love xx
2007-03-23 08:04:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As an "adult" I belive teenagers can fall in love, love is the strongest emotion. But (you knew their was going to be a but, right?) This will not be the first time for you! Which is a wonderful thing! As you get older and grow more mature you will learn that young love is alot different than "adult" love. I can't imagine being with the same guy I dated when I was 14, 15,17, even 22 years old!
I can even say today I still feel something for my old bf in highschool. I spoke to him 2 years ago, he's married with 2 kids. Funny, I'm unmarried, been with same guy for 12 yrs, no children.
As for your parents-they've been there before-they know how emotional it can be and want to protect you.
2007-03-23 08:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Global warming ain't cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While some teens may truly be in love, adults know that teenage love usually does not last when those teens grow up. Its really sad to see 2 teens waste a great time in their life to "devote" it so completely to another teen. You may think your love is "mature", but its not. As one person already said, teens are full of hormones and are not fully developed mentally (even if physically). Despite what you think you know, teens rarely, if ever, have any clue about what they will want out of life 5 or 10 years down the line...let alone 20 or 30. Frankly, I think you're cheating yourself by having such a long term steady. There is so much variety in the world...in terms of people, loves, experiences...you're really closing yourself off to some potentially great experiences.
You're probably watching too many of those teen soap operas on the WB (or whatever its called now)...you know, where the teens know everything and the adults cant seem to function normally... Of course, those are written by adults to attract teen viewers, and its not real life.
As a testement to your immature, close-mindedness, you criticize your friend for only being together 2 months, so they can't be in love like you? Its clear you have no idea what love is or what it means.
2007-03-23 08:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Adults don't think that teenagers can't be in love for a couple reasons:
1) They simply think they're too young. They think teens can't experience those kinds of emotions for one another, even though they can (my cousin got engaged at 15, now he's in his 20's and they're still together).
2) They think it's just a crush. They don't think teens know the difference between strong lust feelings and true love, however, sometimes teens can.
Why should it matter anyway? You're the only one who knows if you're in love or not, no one can say what you feel for you.
2007-03-23 08:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romeo and Juliet is a STORY...its made up, not real! What is real is the divorce rate in this country! Most adults dont know what love is, and when they find it they dont realize that it takes work to keep it. Love is the result of work, honesty, compromise, communication, and respect. If teens can do those things they can know love.
2007-03-23 08:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody says teenagers can't be "in love", but being "in love" is not the same thing as "loving" (or true love). And the overwhelming majority of teenagers DO NOT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. Heck, the majority of adults don't know the difference either and many of them act like teenagers.
If you can tell me the difference between being in love and loving (true love) then I'll treat you as an adult.
Hint: love is not an emotion.
2007-03-23 09:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my parents. i've come to realize, however, that everybody percieves "love" a lot differently. there is no one way to explain it, and so i think that the difference in thoughts causes parents to think we are mere "stupid children". Their idea of love is a lot different than ours, and i find that a lot of parents tend to be stubborn with their ideas. Also, some of my friends laugh when i say i love my bf, and i have come to find that those are the ones with no luck in relationships, who switch bf/gf every month or so. Those are the ones who tell the couples that are in love that it will never last.
2007-03-23 08:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jaded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why parents feel teenagers can't be in love is because of a maturity level. At teen level your hormones are very aggressive so it can be mistaken for love.
2007-03-23 08:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I remember thinking exactly the same thing. The only way you will know what they mean is when you're older - as patronising as that sounds - and of course you are 'in love' its just not the same as being in love when you're grown up, that's when you think 'oh, this is what it is'. I think also having just found my diaries from when I was 12 - 18 (god help me) what I thought back then makes me want to weep with embarrassment...
2007-03-23 08:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 07:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by goodgion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause when they were teen agers they failed to love and abvously they think that all people r the same so they think that the teenagers of 2007 are like teenagers of 1800
2007-03-23 08:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by drferma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋