Im freakin about my fiances bachelor party I know they are only going a strip club before the hockey game, naive maybe but I dont think my finace would ever cheat, I just feel horrible for some reason and Im 11 weeks pregnant (hormones maybe) and trying not to be a witch about the whole thing. People keep telling me horrible stories. Usually I have great self esteem. I need some support but spare me the whole men are pigs stuff, they are guys, I have my party tonight I just dont want to worry about him. Am i being crazy, should I just relax.
2007-03-23 08:00:14 · 10 answers · asked by Bored 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i would just relax... men go to strip clubs for bachelor parties just because it's a stupid male tradition. he'll go with his buddies, have a few laughs and look at some girls that he would never want anyway- because he wants you. that's why he's marrying you. let him have his male bonding fun and don't be a witch about it- that's not attractive.
2007-03-23 08:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by emmers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strip clubs really don't bother me...Why??? Because the men absolutely cannot touch! If they so much as even reach their hand out then a bouncer swoops in and kicks them to the curb. A man can go to a bar, get drunk, and end up grinding and dancing with a woman, make out and Lord knows what else. Men may see naked woman at a strip club, but that's all that gets to happen.
I wouldn't worry to much! It's a part of the whole bachelor party tradition! He's probably more excited about the hockey game anyway!
2007-03-23 08:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it is a good idea that you are having your party tonight, that will help keep your mind off of it.
I would assume your hormones are playing a part in this too. You may also be feeling a little cheated, like you can't have as much fun, because you are pregnant, for example, you can't drink.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Yes they are going to a strip club, but they are not staying there all night. Many times at bachelor parties going to the strip club is more of a joke than anything. Many guys just want to embarrass the other guy. It is not like they are going out of the blue to check out some chicks ya know.
Just try to distract yourself, it is one night in your life and in his, and if you don't think he is a cheater, then you probably have nothing to worry about. There are many decent guys in the world, just be glad you snagged one.
Take care and have fun.
2007-03-23 08:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance went to a birthday party at at strip club when I was about 3 months along too. I was invited to go (the party was given by a friend's wife!) but I was too tired. My fiance was sweet enough to call me every few minutes. Some guys can go to strip clubs without cheating, trust me, so it all depends on your relationship with your man. Also, don't worry if he doesn't pick up right away when you call, because the clubs can be noisy! Just ask him to call you every half hour or so, if you're that upset. Your hormones are probably driving you nuts right now, and you're emotional because of them. If your relationship has been fine up to this point, I really wouldn't worry.
2007-03-23 08:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want you to know that every girl freaks out at thier soon to be husband's bachelor party. It's a girls worst fear. I know I did. It's completely normal to worry because things do happen at these type of parties and we have all heard crazy stories. But it doesn't mean your fiance is one of them. And honestly, there is absolutely NOTHING that you can do about it anyway. It is completely out of your control. So, please do not worry. It seems like you have a very honest and strong relationship and he's already told you where he is going. My advice to you would be: #1 since you are in a more delicate state of mind and I'm sure your fiance won't want to stress you or the baby out. Talk to him about your fears. Ask him to call you a few times throughout the night to check in. ( I did this and it helped me so much. The fact that he was willing to call me and he did eased my mind.) #2 Enjoy your last night of freedom. Don't let your worries ruin your night. Just have fun and relax. Your friends will be with you to get you through it and I'm sure if thier husbands/boyfriends are going to the bachelor party they will be just as nervous. Everything will be fine. Congratulations on your marriage and pregnancy:-)
2007-03-23 08:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bella27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you need to relax! Things will be fine, no need to worry. and the worrying that you are doing is all hormones!!! Those hormones can really mess us up. Just go out and have a great time, and again don't worry so much. Right now you are in a very delicate time in your pregnancy. You don't need to over stress your self!
2007-03-23 08:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your trust level. Has he ever given you a reason to not trust him?
I wouldn't have a problem with my fiance going, but that is just me.
Sure he will probably get some lap dances, but that doesn't mean that he is going to take it any further.
Ask him if he can call you periodically through the night to put your mind at ease
2007-03-23 08:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by hollilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes relax, he has already made a commitment to u, and i dont think ur allowed to touch strippers. My husband has gone to some, but he always comes home to me, horney or not! enjoy ur party! and enjoy time while ur baby isnt here yet.
2007-03-23 08:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all take a deep breathe...when you are pregnant it throws everything out of wack...I am going to agree with you and hormones suck when your pregnant.. if he asked to marry him then he is madly in love with you..you have nothing to worry about...he always comes home to you right....and not all men are pigs...just calm down and relax it will all be okay....
2007-03-23 08:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by bruisertug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all worry about it to so point,But Tomorrow he will be you husband.Just go to your and try to have fun, Just be good he will be worrying about you too!
2007-03-23 08:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by ylondah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋