Can U be friends after u brake up and there is kids between u ????
2007-03-23 07:46:18 · 36 answers · asked by Natural 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would generally say no to being friends with ex'es. But with children, for thier sake, you should try to find a way you can get along. You know what they say, you always have an ex-wife or ex-husband.
Think about years from now you'll be attending the same things for your kids, like their graduations, weddings, their child's births, etc. It's be better if your children didn't have to feel guilty about who they're going to invite, or it being awkward with both of you there.
That's how it is w/my parents, I can't invite my dad to anything b/c of my mom. And I do wish she would understand that even though i'm not happy with what he did to her, he is still my father.
2007-03-23 07:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. You don't have to have a friendship to where you call each other up just to talk, or go to the movies together, but it is sooo much nicer if you can have a nice conversation at events and picking up and dropping off. It puts a lot of strain on kids that feel the tension between their parents.
2007-03-23 08:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! My ex and I have stayed friends through our divorce. At first it was rocky, but when there is kids involved Its important to be a positive role model. Getting along with people you dont necessarily like is a part of life. If kids can see a good example then it could help them in the future.
2007-03-23 07:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I do brake up many times, but i came to him back because the kids, what ever he did to me.
But you must remember, he must not hurt you and the your kids, if he did so just turn him your back.
If you want to still a friend with him so that's OK, he can be just a friend.
That what i think and do what your hear and mind together tel U.
Good luck
2007-03-23 07:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't afford not to be friends because there are kids involved. What's best for the kids would be if the parents could be friends or at least civil enough to discuss what is best for the kids, and to make any kid involved decisions together!
2007-03-23 07:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Super Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess there should be some kind of a friendly relationship between the couple for the sake of the kid... however i do not think that the relationship should be very close!
2007-03-23 08:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. I worked for a guy who was good friends with his ex and he was remarried. Now, having said that it's not always an easy place to get to. If you are interested in getting to "friendship" (which is in the best interest of the kids) walk the high road, don't do anything to him which you wouldn't have him do to you and learn to forgive.
2007-03-23 07:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how it ended.... yes I believe for the kids sake that its good to stay friends with your ex after the healing I believe I can become his friend.
2007-03-23 08:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should consider the kids between you and should be friends for that, and also for old time's sake.
2007-03-23 07:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children reprezent a strong connection between a man and a woman...You will keep in touch with each other because you have something that belongs to each other of you-the children.So you don t have to wonder that.I think you will be friends.
2007-03-23 07:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tymeea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋