why are women afraid of crossdressers/transvestites?

Question

I am curious because women seem far less afraid of gays than they are of trannies. Is it because of an attraction issue, like how men do not find a manly lesbian attractive, or is it a territorial issue, and they feel threatened? I understand this is not ALL womens feelings, but on here i have noticed a strong difference between opinions on the two. And im not gay or a tranny just so you know.

im looking for valid answers, not just the "well i like them" answer. i didn't ask how YOU feel, i asked what you think is the issue with women that feel this way.

Answer 1

People have a natural tendency to fear the things they don’t understand. A gay (or lesbian) person is clearly defined as being attracted to sexually the same gender. On the other hand, crossdressers seem to be somewhat of a mystery to most people since 90% of those who DO crossdress are totally heterosexual. Others have already me4ntioned this but it warrants repeating. The word of ‘transvestite’, is often misused and this could account for some of the misunderstandings concerning those who dress in the clothes usually associated with the opposite gender. “Trans” (meaning ‘across’) and “vestite” (derived from the word ‘vestures’ – meaning ‘clothing’) was the original word used to describe one who “dressed across” the boundary lines of his/her birth gender. Over a period of time the “trans” portion of the word came to be associated with transSEXUALS, and as such so did the word transVESTITE. Although the two aren’t the same, they are often erroneously lumped together, thereby inferring the wrong definition. The word “Crossdresser” is more easily understood in the literal sense and is less likely to become confused in a sexual meaning. Most crossdressers DON’T dress for sexual pleasure, but they are often misinterpreted as doing so. So part of the answer to your question COULD be that women are uncertain as to what motives a man might have for wanting to crossdress.

One other reason comes to mind, which may or may not have a bearing on your question. Over the past 20 –25 years, women have ‘won’ the right to dress in almost any style they so desire as long as any public appearance in that style isn’t indecent. By contrast, men’s fashions have not changed that much in the past 50 years. The assortment of fabric textures, colors, and numerous other factors are far greater and more appealing than that which is available to the male population. The softer fabrics and wide range of styles would naturally feel better against one’s skin. The allure to experience wearing these items and the accoutrements that go with them is very tempting to many men – even those who AREN’T regular crossdressers. Not all, but some women see this desire as an “invasion” on their territory even though they have the social approval to wear that which used to be predominately associated with the male population, so this could be one of the reasons women have a dislike and somewhat of a fear of those males who crossdress. This is in agreement with YOUR theory that some women feel 'threatened' by men who crossdress.

Answer 2

I'm not afraid of trannies or cross dressers.
My friends are a nice mix of all walks of life.
Straights
Gays
Lesbians
Bisexuals
Trannies (both M2F and F2M)
and cross dressers

Personally I think transgenders are some of the most courageous and brave individuals out there. Being gay/lesbian is one thing...but to come out and openly change your gender is horrifying to many. It takes a lot of guts to go forward with your life when it's so misunderstood by so many...even more so that just being gay/lesbian.

Answer 3

I don't know that it's really a fear of crossdressers or transvestites, I think it's a matter of not finding it attractive. I personally am not attracted to a man that dresses like a woman. I prefer manly men. It's just a preference, that's all. No fear involved.

Answer 4

There are LOTS of women out there that are stage 1 -- they tolerate crossdressers and love them, but that's as far as it goes. As far as stage 2 -- the kind of women that like seeing a men dressed up for fun are few and far between. Most of these women actually help out and at least allow their hubby to wear a skirt in public. stage 3 - the kind of woman who's on fire when she sees a man dressed up as a woman are rare, but the do exist. Most of those women are bi or have some inherent love for the way a man looks in lingerie, it just turns them on.

It doesn't matter either way if those women are gay or bi or not, it's a preference and it's NOT cut in stone. It's possible, at least it's been true for me, that women will get turned on over time about a man in a skirt or some sort of lingerie, but it doesn't always happen. Most are stage 1 or 2, they prefer a guy who has male interests and if crossdressing in a skirt is his thing they accept that as part of him being who he is.

Additionally, all three stages of these women have one thing in common -- they are VERY sexually and femininely secure in themselves and they aren't afraid to show it even in public. They are affectionate and usually sexually minded, but they are typically dominant women. In my case, I am completely dominant, there is no such thing as submissive for me, my girl like to be dominated, but she is very feminine and appreciates crossdressers as who they are, because she likes the feminine side of men from time to time, but mostly she likes him to be masculine.

It really depends upon the female. Some are more MATURE and secure in themselves than others, most womenare an emtionally unstable, slow motion trainwreck. The ones who like crossdressers are DEFINITELY not. They are sure of themselves, they are proud women and they aren't offended by me wearing a denim skirt with hose, even in public. They would laugh at other women who are insecure in their sexuality and femininity, becuse it is funny to them that they are offended by crossdressers.

The world is changing...change with it or your kids will be left behind...

Answer 5

Im not afraid of Tranny's or crossdressers. Alot of them are cool people..their alot cooler than most females so i personally dont have a problem with them.

Answer 6

I am not affraid of crossdressers. I have some friends who live their lives like this.....the best thing about it, is that I get great make-up application ideas! I can't understand why anyone would be afraid of them....they are people just like the rest of us!

Answer 7

A crossdresser is not a "tranny". You've got your terms mixed up.

Secondly. "Transvestite" is an out of date term and slightly irritating when people use it.

Answer 8

Perhaps some women find it hard to understand why someone who clearly looks like a geezer would want to walk around in a skirt

Answer 9

i'm a t-girl and i think it goes by where u stand on the issue of tv/tg and what they might do with men. i simply enjoy doing things for men that their "women" find repulsive. he gets what he wants, i get what i want, and she don't have to do nothing! we all win! i don't understand why they hate me. they can still have the other 23 hours and 40 minutes with him! lol!!

Answer 10

My guess would be because they see them as having something mentally wrong with them if they have urges to dress like women or to become women. The average person will try to to avoid people that they find mentally unstable.