I was at a party about 3 weeks ago and now im late. also i have been throwing up before school. i went with a girlfriend to the doctors and we havent gotton the results yet. how do i tell my boyfriend of a year. not to mention i was drunk and i dont think it is his baby.
2007-03-23 06:56:27 · 40 answers · asked by Elana 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You really should be more careful honey. I understand how you feel. I got pregnant my very first time. Its scary. First of all, make sure YOU ARE PREGNANT before you say or do anything! When you get the results back, you should be given a tentative due date based on the first day of your last period. I wouldn't be so sure it happened the night of the party...three weeks is a little early for morning sickness and other symptoms. You need to get together with your boyfriend in a neutral place...a park, a lake, somewhere that is calm and not crowded. (You do this so neither of you feels like you are on the other's "turf") I would go about it by explaining that you are pregnant and you are really scared. Tell him that you have made a big mistake and that you know you are wrong and you hope that won't change the way he feels. Try to understand where HE is coming from...he is a young man, whose girlfriend is pregnant and is not sure it is even his. He will probably be more scared than you. Listen to what he has to say when you tell him...and make sure you tell him the truth. Then give him some time to think about it without hounding him...nine months is a LONG time. Then you need to tell your parents because they will have to be involved in taking care of you and your baby if you decide to keep him or her. Try to understand that as scary and as bad as things seem for you, this will affect many people in many ways...be understanding...Good Luck...
2007-03-23 07:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by sugarfoot71674 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, there are a few steps to this:
1. Tell your parents you think you may be pregnant. Tell them the whole story. Not half the truth. Not a fourth of it. This is a serious thing, and if you want to get help and advice from them it's all honesty from here on out.
2. DO NOT tell him until you are 100% SURE.
3. If you really are pregnant, tell him face to face. Not on the phone, internet, or through a letter.
4. Do what you feel is best. This is your baby, what you feel is what will be done.
5. Find out what really happened when you were drunk. If your boyfriend's not the dad, tell him.
6. Raise the baby in a safe environment. No more getting drunk for you.
7. If you are not ready for this responsibility, put the kid up for adoption. Make sure it gets a good home.
This is what you get for being irresponsible. Don't do it again.
2007-03-23 09:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by irishdancer502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you need to get the results of the pregnancy test. What you need to do, is if you are pregnant, you need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him that you are pregnant and that the child could not be his, because you had sex with someone else. Then you need to get tested, because you have had unprotected sex with a guy that you do not know...you then need to find him and tell him that he could be the father of your baby. You then need to go get the help and education you need from the doctor on how to raise a healthy child or to see what your options are...I do not know if you are pro-choice or pro-life, but you need to visit a planned parenthood and talk about what options you have...you need to talk to your family/friends/church about what you can do to raise this child, because there is a posibility that the father may not want to be a part of the life. The first thing you need to do is find out you are pregnant, after that, you have alot of adult decisions to make...you made the adult decision to have sex and now you have to do the adult thing and live with that decision...I wish you the best of luck and I hope that all is well with you, but you need to sit down with him and let him know what is going on.
Side note: Sweety, a pregnancy test takes five minutes to get the results, have you actually gone to the doctor? Because they tell you the results the same day...?
2007-03-23 07:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Crissy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you are saying is you went to a party got drunk and slept with another dude. And now you want to tell your boyfriend that you are pregnant and hope that hes still going to be there for you. Well ask questions like what if I got pregnant and it was not yours what would you do. And see and go off the answers he gives you
2007-03-23 08:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nitrodrive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say but honesty is the way to go. Find out the results first (no need to alarm anyone if you arn't) if you are, tell your parents, they will be disapointed, hurt and may say some mean things and how did this happen and so on and so fourth. Then, tell your boyfriend what happened. You can get a DNA test done to see if he is the father or not, if he is then go from there, if he isn't, you will need to find out who is the father.
Good luck to you and I pray you are NOT prego.
2007-03-23 07:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put this into perspective: Telling your boyfriend may actually be the least of your worries if I understand your situation correctly. When you do tell him, there is a good chance that he is going to dump you. Yeah, that's going to hurt, but again, I think breaking up with him is pretty minor compared to an unplanned pregnancy, especially when you are uncertain as to who the father is.
I would advise you to turn to an adult that you trust--your parents? a teacher? a pastor? a counselor? a friend's parent? You are going to need a lot of support and compassion. I pray that you find it--for your sake and that of your baby.
Please remember that a lot of women have "surprise" babies and they turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to them.
Godspeed.
2007-03-23 07:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by museumdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juast tell him. If he loves you for who you are then he will stand by you no matter what. If he isn't man enough to stand by the woman he claims he loves then face it, he'll only break your heart eventually anyway, and you don't need the extra heartache while going through a pregnancy. Now is the time to make sure that you know you have some full support with what you are going through.
2007-03-23 07:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That`s a pretty bad situation. Anyways just tell him the whole story as it is. because the more you try and tell the story in a different way the more confusions will arise. In my opinion take him for a walk and start talking about stuff after marriage and stuff, u know kids and family. Eventually he will ask you about marrying or will say that i am not ready for this relationship, it`s just then you need to tell him the whole truth.
Well, hope for the best,
Pleasure to HELP !
Salik
2007-03-23 07:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by Salik K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG... your in a world of trouble, but you need to make sure that this is true, once you find out that you are then you tell him. And tell him the truth too. Don't leave out the part about it not being his, you will have to tell the honest truth. This is another humans life that your are playing with, so everyone must become adults about the situation.
2007-03-23 07:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by nuttybuddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all actually go to the Dr. They give you the results immediately. Or go to the drug store. Then look up the folks at planned parenthood and see if they can help you decide what to do.
2007-03-23 07:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋