Does it hurt the first time, bleeds or does it just slip right in? ( be honest everyone) I haven't done it yet(i'm saving myself) but i just want to make sure of whats gonna happen on that special night.
2007-03-23 06:32:16 · 30 answers · asked by ruth m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ruth,just don't have sex untill your married,and when you do,your husband will treat you with respect and gentleness and it probably won't hurt at all.you are in my prayers sweetheart! god bless you!
2007-03-23 07:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex two years ago and the first time it does hurt but not much but sometimes people can just slip it right in the first time but for me it hurt the first 2 or 3 times then it feet good but no I did not bleed not 1 time but some people do bleed the first time you might and might not but don't be scared the first it will be ok I have only been with 1 person in my life and I am stell with him make sure it is who you want to be with and try to make it special ant the first man you will allways feel something for him after making love make sure you love him and he loves you ok and make sure that you will allways be with him don't let anyone talk you into any thing wate to that one special boy ant night.
2007-03-23 14:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time is a special event that you'll always remember. And you'll appreciate it more if it's with someone you love and trust, and this way you can relax more. You'll want to engage in alot of foreplay so that your bodies prepare for the sex act. You'll want to do alot of kissing, hugging, caressing, oral sex, and finger insertions. By doing all these things, you'll be more wet and better prepared for penetration. The wetter you are, the easier it will be for him to enter you. He should take his time and enter you very slowly. You may bleed, and it will hurt a little the first time, or even the first few times, but the pain will give way to pleasure. You may also consider using some type of lubricant if insertion is too painful, such as KY Jelly or Astroglide. And enjoy holding each other afterward, there is a special bond that occurs after the act.
2007-03-25 23:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably take a while so do PLENTY of foreplay before and during. This will help with your moisture (down there) and make it a smooth and less painful entrance. It was more of an uncomfortable feeling to me at first, with some soreness.
Your partner should help you feel very aroused, relaxed and comfortable (All the time really!). He should also be considerate and sensitive by entering slowly until you get the rhythm of it. Try not to focus or be afraid about how much pain you think you'll be in (remember, it's all in the mind!), and you should be perfectly fine.
PS: The bleeding isn't that serious either. Just try to RELAX.
2007-03-23 13:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by LeaveNoQuestion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls bleed a little bit, a little bit of spotting, but not everyone does. It may hurt a little too, but that kind of depends on the guy and wether he takes precauitons, such as lubrication to make it go in smoother. Often condoms have lube already on them, in a sense so it makes it easier. The first time is not always pleasurable, but it gets better with time and more experience. Good job on saving yourself. It's worth it.
2007-03-23 13:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by nemosquishy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to lie to you...the first time...it hurts and it bleeds and then you're going to ask yourself it hurts so much why do people find it so enjoyable?? Well you won't find it enjoyable untill another couple of trys. The reason it hurts and bleed is because there's a very thin layer of skin protecting your opening but it rips easily so that's why it will rip. Let me see...the feeling of it is like having a paper cut it sting you for a while. Anyways having fun exploring. This is just something that all girls have to go through.
2007-03-23 13:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how relaxed or tense you are, mostly. Some women hardly feel a thing, maybe a slight pinch, and with others it may hurt a little more. It can bleed a little or even not at all.
My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night and believe it or not it wasn't that bad.
2007-03-23 14:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's HIS first time, it's gonna hurt because he'll have no idea what he's doing and he'll try to just cram it on in there. Two firsts are generally a mess.
Mine didn't hurt at all, he knew what he was doing, and I didn't bleed either.
2007-03-23 13:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with a sensitive man, it will never hurt and you will never bleed.
A sensitive man will take time and will have patience with you. If he sees/feels you are uncomfortable he will stop.
A sensitive man will make the experience something wonderful for you, therefore choose very well that first person.
2007-03-23 13:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Flyinghorse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first time did not hurt, but I cried because i thought i was ready and i really wasn't. Just make sure that the Down There area is moist and make sure that this is the decision you really want to make. Everyone is different though, I would suggest some lube.
2007-03-23 13:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by antie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. From what Ive read, it does hurt and there may be some bleeding. If you want to prepare yourself psychologicaly for it then have your future partner perform oral sex on you. Then, youll know the potential pleasure before the pain. Good luck.
2007-03-23 13:38:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋