2007-03-23 06:29:41 · 19 answers · asked by Kelly L 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Traditionally the one doing the inviting pays for the cost of "whatever". Today, more and more couples are going dutch...each paying their half cause everything is just so much $.
Put these two together...you pay when he comes here he pays when you go there.
Now it you're footing the bill cause he's extravagantly spending your money. ...he's not worth it. But before you dump him..do the same to him and ask him how he felt..you might find he learned something. If you don't like what you learned...heave ho..maybe he won't make the same mistake with another woman. Then at least you've helped a sister.
2007-03-23 06:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im also in a long distance relationship now for about 3 months, when he comes down to see me, he pays for everything, hotel, dinner, drinks etc... Tell your man that he is going to have to pay the next time he comes to visit, and see if he still comes.
2007-03-23 14:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't have the guts to ask him to pay for anything, and he's a cheap bastarrd! He should be picking up the tab. Your going broke, doing all of the work and he's sitting back in cosy hotel room and eating for free. Sounds like all here's required to do is produce your orgasms. Next time he's in town, skip the hotel room and go play putt putt. When he wants sex, tell him you don't have the money for a hotel room. Maybe he'll get the picture.
2007-03-23 15:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you're a sucker and I guess you like being used. Is he a gigilo?All I can say to you ...wait all I can ask you is why in the hell do you do all the paying?? Come on you deep down know why so tell us why!! Do you like (enjoy) being used? If this guy really cared for you he would do 1/2 (if not all!!) the paying. Wow what a deal this dude is getting free sex and food and bed and you are just left with no more $ in your purse!!
2007-03-23 13:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No wonder he likes coming to visit you, a free weekend with benefits. Maybe I should hook you up with my brother..lol.. Please stop. It makes you look desperate for him, and he might take you for granted. Tell him the party is over, and he will have to make his own hotel arrangements from now on. See if he still comes as often.. You will feel lifted after telling him that.. Good luck..your too good for him..
2007-03-23 13:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't say why you do it, but you need to stop. As long as you pay, he will continue to allow it. Perhaps you should share your concerns with him and see if he is willing to pay sometimes. If not, dump him and find a man who won't use you. Thank you and may GOD bless.
2007-03-23 13:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you are needy and a caretaker? co-dependent?
lots of information on line about these issues.
i don't think there is anything wrong with offering to pay for some things, but you can't buy another person....
if he wants to visit, he will foot his own bill... imo
2007-03-23 13:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you think you need to do this in order for him to want you or want to spend time with you.....
Get some self-respect....
And why are you in a hotel? Still living with your parents?
2007-03-23 13:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why a hotel? Why can't he stay with you?
2007-03-23 13:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by aspicco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you unsure of your hold on this guy? do you think that if you don't foot the bill, he will stop coming to visit?
2007-03-23 13:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by ron m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋