to take our son to Georgia, we are in NJ, for spring break on a visit to her fiance's family.It is not in our parenting plan that she can go for this long and I don't think it is good that he once again is subjected to a trip like this when he doesn't like the guy, is subjected to a moral standard I am against and he did not grow up with. What would you do?
2007-03-23 06:26:51 · 7 answers · asked by RealEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are always exceptions to every rule. This man is going to be your son's step-father and your son should meet his new step-grandparents.
The boy is not going to like this guy as long as you do not like the guy. You have to face the fact that your ex-wife is getting married. If you show your son that it is ok to like this guy then he will be able to make up his own mind.
Whatever moral standard you are opposed to is not clear in your question.
My parents got divorced when I was five and my father got remarried when I was six. My step-mother lived with him before they got married and I spent time at their place and time at my mother's place. Both places were entirely different and my experiences in the two homes were very different. Your son is going to have the same experience that I had and there is nothing that you can do to change that.
Take care,
Troy
2007-03-23 06:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you trust you ex to be with him for the weekend, then trust her for a week. If you don't, then speak up. Depending on your son's age, he should have a say if he wants to go. I'd say 7-8 years old is a good age to be able to make a choice. No matter if he likes this guy, he may be his step-father one day and will have to deal with him eventually anyway.
2007-03-23 06:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? In my divorce decree we alternate spring break and whatever i wanted to do, I can do and likewise with the x...if it is his year for spring break...I could do nothing about it
Good luck
2007-03-23 06:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain my reservations to her and tell her you don't want him to go. Trust me, she should be grateful you care enough to even consider it, where some fathers aren't involved enough to even know his child was out of town. Also explain that you don't want to bring up your parenting plan in court, but you will if you have to to put your son first.
2007-03-23 06:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by luvlandon2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be kind and let her take him for a week. You may be in need of something in the future and this will be a positive on your side.
2007-03-23 06:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would not allow my son to go with a man he doesn't even like. if your not there to protect your boy who is? tell her no way.
2007-03-23 06:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her no.
2007-03-23 06:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by endlessknowledge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋