today i was on the bus coming to my trade school and my best friend taj sat beside me and whispered to me: "why didnt you tell me you was gay?" i was so scared when he found out. how am i supposed to deal with that? i dont want anyone else to find out please help me anyone that is there... thanx for reading this. i am faced with the fact that i am really gay and i don't even know it yet i need someone to tell me how and why... my feelings are very hurt right now and i need someone to tell my feelings to. can anyone help me out here? I am literally about to cry here at school. I am really confused here and i dont know what's going so can you help me out? and sorry for so many "can you help me outs" i cant get enough of typing that. thank you all for listening!
2007-03-23 06:21:14 · 7 answers · asked by melikey2009 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Take a deep breath... what's so terrible about your best friend finding out you are gay. It's your mate who is the person you should be talking to... your mate sounds willing to listen and be there for you.
2007-03-23 06:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by no_fool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a couple choices ...
A - admit it and take the chance of everyone finding out
B - admit it - but make him swear he wont say anything
C - say its none of your business
D - deny it
its hard because i understand school is a hard time already -let alone - having the trouble of everyone knowing something personal like that. If i were you id try to keep it quiet - at least until you get out of high school - who cares about these people? and what they think of you ? your not going to see 99% of them after high school. Do what makes you happy - and when people see they cant hurt you - they wont! -- just be confident and strong in whatever you chose to do.
Goodluck
2007-03-23 13:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay strong.......it is not bad to be gay, it just takes some getting used to the negative things ppl say, and the way some may act..........ok you are obviously an older teen, the world is waiting on you to come out........dont be afraid to be who you are.......you are more honest than most in your school.......how many closet cases do you know of in your own circle? think positive and dont let others opinion of your lifestyle affect your feelings.........trust me i am in my 30s and a lesbian in a very small community, so honey it still hurts but eventually you develop an attitude of who cares what you think.......that is what you need to focus on now, you and what you want for YOUR life, not a life to suffice others......good luck to you and dont cry, it will be okay it just takes time for you and others around you to accept the changes that are taking place in your world, and only your world.....smile i bet it is beautiful..........
2007-03-23 13:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by alex grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. when someone asks you a question that you'd rather not answer say, "why do you ask?"
2. that's your best friend...what's the big deal?
3. why are you so ashamed to be gay?
4. how do you not know you're gay?........
TIME OUT
this doesn't make sense to me...your best friend found out you were gay. but you don't know if your gay?
i'm finding this one hard to believe...
2007-03-23 13:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha Mellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be afraid to be known,you are one of Gods beautiful people.I tried to hide it,but it is a bigger burden to keep it secret.you will be loved by those that really matter anyway
2007-03-23 13:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he whispered it to you i wouldn't worry it doesn't seem like he will out you if your not ready to be out
2007-03-23 13:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be proudof who you are no matter what your sexual prefference is,if you are hiding it you are not happy with yourself
2007-03-23 13:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋