I have a friend that wrote a three page blog about me on myspace stating what a crazy ***** I was and how she hoped I was seriously injured in a recent car wreck I was in at the time. All my friend's saw it, because we have the same group of friends. She is the type of person that expected her "true" friends to call every night to talk to her. We are all in our 20s, so it is not like we're back in high school and see each other everyday. Anyways, all my other friends have no problem with me. Actually, I have stopped talking to her altogether and some of my friends have, too. She sent me an one sentence statement a month after the blog was written saying, "It was inappropriate to write those things about you..." That was it!! No, I am sorry or anything. She still sometimes drunk phone calls me just to say random stuff, but still no apology. Would you forgive her? She has anger issues, and always has to be mad at one of her friends over petty stuff...I don't understand!
2007-03-23 06:07:51 · 15 answers · asked by hapigrl85 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Comming from someone who is supposed to be your friend no you shouldnt put up with this. I have had three close friends die in car accidents and it was the worst thing i've ever gone through. And one friend that i wished death upon that died two years later and to this day i feel bad about...i visit all of thier graves regularly...this so called friend of yours is a worthless piece of junk and sould NEVER wish death upon anyone...you are better than that and no i would not forgive her or give her a second chance as a freind. you will learn as you grow up that some people will never change and she sounds like one of them
2007-03-23 06:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by mare022 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds kinda jealous of you. And no, I would not be her friend. What she said was cruel, hurtful and pointless. Those remarks were not made by a friend. This is what I would say to her during one of her "drunken" phone calls. " Um, how do you expect to be my friend when you wished me dead? You never apologized and have basically blown it off. I have not forgotten about it and it still bothers me. Please stop calling and find someone else to hurt, bye bye." Maybe you did something to make her mad or get her jealous, don't know. She has issues that she needs to take care of and grow up at the same time. I wish you luck, really!
2007-03-23 06:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would bring it to her attention, regarding the situation. Maybe she was drunk or maybe it was out of anger? Who knows and if she still calls you maybe she still cares about you as a friend. And avioding the situation maybe she thought you forgot because it was a stupid comment. There is two sides of the story, but if she is your "true" friend then you should forgive her, because good friends are hard to find. Forgive but don't forget, and learn from this experience.
2007-03-23 06:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Islander 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all say stupid things sometimes, but to say something like that and put it somewhere everyone could see it...that on it's own means that she isn't a good friend. The fact that she expects so much from her friends and won't even say she's sorry or she didn't mean it just shows that you don't need someone like her.
2007-03-23 10:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by John R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know forgiveness is supposed to be divine- etc., etc., but I would not forgive and create as much distance as possible. She obviously has some pschy disorder. Years from now if she got professional help, I would think about rebuilding a relationship, but only under that circumstance.
2007-03-23 06:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by stepss1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youi need to confront her about it and tell her how it made you feel.
She is the psychotic one for writing those things.
And I am a firm believer that those who wish bad thigns on people will have it come back tenfold on themselves (karma).
Just bring it up and try to move past it. If you can't continue on with the relationship as it once was I undersatnd, but at least tell her it made you feel bad that she didn't even apologize.
And move on. Surround yourself with good people.
2007-03-23 06:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not your friend. You don't need a person like that in your life. Don't feel bad either, you didn't do anything wrong. Your friends are the ones sticking by you through all of this..
2007-03-23 06:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Free your life of this person. She is all about negative energy and until she sorts her own problems out, all she is going to do is bring you down. It is a tough call to let go of someone you might even want to help - but you don't need that drama - just let her go.
2007-03-23 06:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should always forgive her but that dosent' mean you have to be friends with her or trust her.
live forgive and move on grow
2007-03-23 06:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no! that was messed up and I would'nt be able to forgive her. You should'nt be her friend again cause it just gives her room to say something else bad about you, so you will be going through this cycle all over again. NO,NO,andNO!!!!
2007-03-23 06:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋