Would like any input relateing to issues involved w/divorce, such as the protocol for relocating my daughter back home(she is in another state,HI)
what about spousal support for her until the divorce is final?
Is the military resposible for helping to ship her belongings (vehicle, personal items) back to the mainland?
There are no children involved, He is being very good about this so far,I dont want to point fingers but he did admit to an affair & as you can imagine I am feeling very worried & upset per normal in this instance.
This is especially hard in the fact that she is so far away.
So like I said any personal knowledge to ease my mind would be greatly appreciated. Thanxs to all in advance.
2007-03-23 05:45:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is entitled to a portion of his BAH - the army pays married soldiers more money for housing and food - until they are divorced. If he refuses to give it to her, she should go through his company commander, if that fails, then its off to JAG to have them enforce it.
No, the army is not responsible for moving her stuff back home but again, getting the commander involved usually gets the soldier to do what he has to do to help relocate his wife.
2007-03-23 05:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military will not ship her things home. They will pay for the removal of the household goods (one time) when the soldiers duty is complete in HI. My suggestion would be for her to have a "divorce sale" and sell everything....why not buy new things at home. Not only that, but good yardsales in HI aren't easy to come by and she's likely to make a killing. (I was there 4 years)
She is not going to get spousal support (he's not required to pay) while the divorce is pending....and she might not get any afterward. Is she filing in HI or her home of record?
Depending on how long she was married to him, she might be able to get 50% of his military retirement. If she was married 10 or more years to him, he has no choice but to give this to her.
Buy and Read "The MIlitary Divorce Handbook".
As far as easing your mind, I think getting your daughter safely home will be the only thing that will do that. Advise her to sell her things, buy a plane ticket home so that you can help her figure out things once she's home. She can even file for divorce from there, although depending on his MOS, the process could/might be delayed. If she gets bogged down with the idea that she needs these "things" it's only going to make matters worse.
Good luck to her.
2007-03-23 06:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother was married for 27 years and his wife got half the retirement and he had to give her half of what there house sold for. He has to help with the children. Like the other person said get the commander involved. He will make sure she makes it home and she gets what she deserves. She is entitled to benefits until she remarries such as medical and dental etc.
2007-03-23 05:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been thru one.
The military does not acknowledge your marriage as military buisnes when it comes to divorce. Your divorced will be treated like all civilans. The military will not pay for moving you or a child to another location for a divorce.
You have to go thru regular court for everything and the military wil not enforce anything for you
2007-03-23 06:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced, yet different than that my family individuals and my husbands family individuals have very durable marriages. My grandparents have been jointly incredibly much 70 years while they exceeded.
2016-10-19 10:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋