does marriage counseling really work?

Question

has anyone been to marriage couseling and did it help? what happens?

Answer 1

It's worked/working for us. I was skeptical at first. But I have really gotten on board. It was really been therapeutic talking to another understanding person about our problems. I've kept everything locked up for so many years. Both people have to want to try to make things work. If you're having issues with your spouse. I would highly recommend it. I wish I would have done this 9 years ago. Too proud then. Not anymore. I can only go up from here. If you thinking about doing it, I'd do it.

Answer 2

Counselors don't try to save a marriage, so if you are asking "does it work" the answer is that depends upon what you mean by working.

Counseling helps each partner define his and her concerns, and opens the way to conversation, and points out the options and consequences of those options. Counselors as well, keep the conversations on track, and help discussion progress without rage or resentment. If a couple can get the issues they have out there on the table without rage, name calling, etc., it is easier for clear thinking. And a couple that has gone into counseling may indeed find that there is no reason to go on... but at least they came to that conclusion in an atmosphere not charged with emotion.

Helpful?

Answer 3

it depends counseling only works if the person or people going want it to and no one is there because they are dragged there and that the reasons are really about the marriage not about a abuse problem that is physical-mental-or substances those are things that each individual needs to work on and then come back to heal the damage that was done by these to the marriage but to go because communication is not working or interest has dropped or hurts have been cause it can help those but both people have to really want to go or you end up with one person really trying and working and another closed off and not listing and then resentment builds more from the person who feel they are the only one trying and the partner who thinks they were forced to do this!

Answer 4

Yes, it does help. A third unbiased party in the room clarifies that both of you have made mistakes and helps shed light on what needs to be done to improve the marriage.

At the worst, even if the marriage doesn't work at least both of you will be in a better place.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Does it?? gosh no, maybe to others they will tell you that it did, but reality in scale of 1-10 only 1% works on them and it all depends on couples problem. The rest it didn't and wont, all the you will loose are money everytime to see a councilor. It didn't help me, after my s.o.b. husband had an affair with a married woman, this councilor that he found,all she did is listen, write, say something but will not let me say my anger nor the pain of my children,.....so you be the judge okay!!

Answer 6

It works if your both open minded enough to accept what a third party sees as the problem.
If your both commit ed on saving your relationship, making it a close and loving one.
If your both willing to change, the way you think about something, the way you feel about something, how you hear or speak to the other person.

Answer 7

Marriage counseling works if you go into it determined to work on YOURSELF and not FIX your spouse. Most people just point at each other and blame, blame, blame.

It's up to the couple if it works.

Answer 8

I have been there and done that I have found it a waste of time, but that had more to do with a bad counselor and a crazy person I was dealing with. It does work, but you have to go into it with the right attitude and have the right counselor.

Answer 9

Wheteher it works on not depends solely on wheteher both partners are willing to honestly accept it. It did wonders for my brother and his wife. In my case it didnt do much good since my ex wasnt willing to be honest

Answer 10

It works if you are both open and willing to work at your marriage.