Does Therapy work for men with SEVERE performance anxiety?

Question

My husband of 2 1/2 years is in therapy with someone who specializes in male sexual issues. We went 2 years without sex. He can rarely obtain an erection and when he does he can't sustain it (even with viagra). He says he just has no interest in it. When I recently told him I couldn't live like this anymore he got serious about going to therapy. The therapist says he just has severe performance anxiety and claims
it's fixable. My husband has had very little experience sexually and is extremely small in size. I think this compounds his anxiety problems. My question is...does the therapy work? He's been in therapy about 6 months with no change. Maybe I'm being pessimistic but I just have my doubts this will fix anything. What do I do ? Thanks.

Answer 1

Relax!!! Yes therapy can work, of course if would work better if you guys could communicate about it better. Frist thing you guys need to spend more time just being naked with each other. Another thing is help him with is small package, it isn't the end of the world for him, and he should realize that. Shoot theres countless techniques he could use even if he didn't have a package at all that most females would enjoy better then a real big package, of course thats different strokes for different folks. The reason unfornatly that this well take so long is that your not in there with him. Real it is issues he has with himself but you being there talking to him about it too in a caring and compassionate way could do wonders. Only thing that scares me thou is that I, like most males, have our own sexual male issues. Its just the way it is because so smart **** out there got it in there minds that size mattered. Of course it does if all you want is to get f'd hard, most people really like to make-love instead, and in the course of it get f'd really hard. But its going to come down more to his emotional insecurities then his size. The other thing is the lack of interest that scares me, usually that is the number one thing that motivates a man to take on a women.... number one... so how he could have motivation to be with woman for anything other then that it comes in to flavours. Loneliness or True Love. If the latter you guys well do fine if he understands how much love that is and how he feels about it, the former could be your dealing with a well...... the therapy will weed that out...

Answer 2

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