what do you think of a guy who is 45 years old and goes on myspace and says that he is single when in fact he is living with a girl and says he goes on there to flirt and get pics from other girls. He says it is harmless because his girlfriend does not know about it and she is not into making love much. he said she is a challenge. is this guy in love with his girlfriend or what?
2007-03-23 05:17:12 · 30 answers · asked by monalisa79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am referring here to asking for photos and asking them what they like in bed etc....and then getting off instead of being with your girlfriend
2007-03-23 05:19:07 · update #1
He may be in love but, he needs to make a hard choice. He needs to decide whether he wants to stay with his girlfriend in spite of her problems with intimacy or if he wouldnt be better off breaking up with her and finding someone more compatable with him. Otherwise, he's cheating and when and if he gets caught, she will in all probability dump him anyways. Again, irregardless of whether he really loves her or not, by doing what he's doing, he's showing a serious lack of respect for her.
2007-03-23 05:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Whether she knows now or not, she will find out. And when she does, she'll consider it cheating. This guy is going outside of his relationship for something he's not getting from his girlfriend. That qualifies as cheating. Why are some men so immature that they can't talk anymore? He is being extremely selfish and hurting the woman he claims to love. It's never harmless fun either. He obviously can't be in love because it's impossible to love someone and concisely hurt them.
2007-03-23 05:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by LittleItalianInMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is putting more attention on the computer and fantasizing about other women instead of putting all of his focus and attention to his girlfriend. That is the problem right there. He is just thinking of self gratifying himself and probably has done this numerous of times that he no longer has any interest in her. He may blame it on her but he needs to look at himself. Guys are going to be guys they are going to sneak a peak and I see nothing wrong with it if it is only once in awhile but most guys get addicted to it and would rather get turned on by looking at other women. If he took the time that he has took on the computer, his relationship would be so much better but he is just looking out for himself which is rather selfish.
2007-03-23 05:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like this if they wont do it in front of your face then they know its wrong so if she only found out about this because she caught him then he is wrong and really has no respect for he at all! and with love comes respect so i would think if this is something that bothers her and or hurts her and he still does this no he cant really love her in the true sense of the word he may love the idea of having someone to live with,pay half the bills and clean up after him but to respect their feelings or spend time finding out what she likes and doesn't then no what he wants is a roommate not a girlfriend. now if this in no way shape or form bothers her at all and she could careless and they have this kind of relationship then who are we to judge him or her and so more power to them but if your asking its because it does bother her!
2007-03-23 05:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see what is inside another person's heart.. so I cannot say for sure whether or not he could be in love with his girlfriend or not.
However...
I can't imagine why anyone would seek the company of other women (whether it be online or in person), or talk about sexual things with them.. if he's really in love with his girlfriend. That's not love. When you love someone, you respect them and you honor your relationship. I think it goes without saying, that what you have described is very inconsiderate, disrespectful.. and doesn't sound like anything a grown man who is "in love" with his girlfriend would be doing.
That's just my opinion..
2007-03-23 09:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god!!! Yes it is possible for you to do those things and still be in love with your gf. But it's not right!! Not right at all!! Now think about it like this, would you want her to do that to you? What if she was doing that stuff behind your back. How would you feel? You need to stop and if you want to continue your relationship with her then have a nice sit down and let her know exactly how you feel and how it effects you. It sounds like you are kinda addicted also. You need to stop this........ASAP!!
2007-03-23 05:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of icky. Is he admitting how old he is? I don't know if he loves his girlfriend. I would say he could still because he's not actually physically cheating on her, he's just getting what he needs off the internet. It's just weird, though.
2007-03-23 05:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its sick to lie about that stuff. Your not only fooling them, but your messing with your girlfriends head too. If you love your girlfriend, then I honestly suggest you give up on the myspace lies.
2007-03-23 05:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MySpace should have an age limit.
Unless you're an entertainer (and stupidity doesn't count!) no one over 35 should have one. And even 35 is a little generous.
2007-03-23 05:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. When you love someone, you do what's in THEIR best interest - not yours. You put them first and you care deeply about what makes them happy. If you love someone, you know that that kind of behavior would hurt them and you wouldn't dream of it. I never think of any kind of sex with anyone else other than the man I love. If I'm going to fantasize - it's about HIM. If I'm going to play around - it's with him. Love is one on one only.
2007-03-23 05:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋