well my brother just recently called me today and crying which he never does and freaked me out because he was crying. I asked him what's wrong and he didn't want to tell me so then i finally had to guess and he said he thinks he bisexual. And he was crying because he thought i was going to see him differently or stop talking to him! I immedeately told him to not worry about it and i was upset that he saw me as this horrible monster who would get mad at him and stop talking to him! I told him that was his own choice and life style and i was nobody to judge him! he told me that he had found out or was thinking about it like about a year ago and barely had the guts to tell me right now. O fcourse i love my brother and this is not going to change the way i see him he is still going to have my respect and love as a sister! i just wanted to know if any of you have gone thru the same thing?
2007-03-23 05:09:18 · 11 answers · asked by *Loving my two boys* 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
please this ain't a joke or even a plot line so if you are not going to be serious abput it then don't post anything at all! you know who you are!
2007-03-23 05:20:29 · update #1
Well your first problem is that you think that your brother made any kind of "choice" at all.
Trust me, he didn't.
He told you he figured it out about a year ago but was probably too scared to tell anyone because he wasn't ready to accept it in himself.
That's normal. Many of us go through that, heck some of us take years to finally accept who we are.
It's not a choice or a lifestyle, it's simply a part of who we are. We don't have special clothes, cars, houses, house plants, restaurants...etc. We don't decide one day that it would be cool or interesting to be gay/lesbian or bi.
It's something we find out that is within ourselves. Some of us know very early on that we're in some way "different" than those around us. Many of us put that off and try to "fit in" for years and years. Some accept it immediately. Some of us recognize it but NEVER learn to accept it. Some are driven to do horrible self-destructive things because of their refusal to accept it.
It's a painful thing for many, but the only choice any of ever make is to be honest and open about it.
We don't choose to be it, we only choose to accept it and be honest about it.
2007-03-23 05:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through that..and I'm still going through it.
It gets scary because you dont know if people will treat you differently or not..I can see why your brother was so upset. I really dont think its a choice...cause I'd like so much to be normal, instead of all the stares I get when I'm talking to a girlfriend or hanging out with her and stuff...all that really matters is if he finds someone that makes him happy. we shouldnt put labels on things like this. It's hard enough to go through life as it is without people putting a label on you. What is 'normal' anyways? One person's normal could be abnormal in someone elses eyes. I think you're brother is very corageous for telling you, but I can see why he held back. A lot of people do see it as a wrong thing like they're still living in the 1800's. This is 2007 people should be able to express their feelings without people stomping all over them. Just hang in there for him and help him in any way that you can. The best of luck to you both.(L)
2007-03-23 05:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where your brother is coming from. Since I came out about a year or so ago, My brothers and sister will have nothing to do with me. The same goes for the entire remainder of my family. Cousins I thought I was close to, won't pickup when I call. You are a very nice person who loves your brother unconditionally. Don't change. I understand his fear. I live it every day.
2007-03-23 05:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by ron s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Kid i wouldnt dream of offering you any Advice on this Subject.
But i am Going to Star you because if all Siblings cared about each other as you care for your Brother this world wouldnt be in such a mess.
Just a bit of Advice from a old in i dont know how old you are but please dont carry everything on your own shoulders.
Best wishes
2007-03-23 05:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by ashymojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi-sexaul too. it good understood him because it's hard, very hard to tell someone u love so much about what u want to tell them that it might hurt u.
it's very scary too!
2007-03-23 05:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by nancy k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there, kep a level head, squared shoulders, and the determination that you are not going to give up, no matter wha
t, and you will see that everything wii work out for the better.
2007-03-23 05:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to stop watching Degrassi High and all of those other shows catered towards teens. This sounds like one of their plot lines.
2007-03-23 05:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no i haven't, but your brother is obviously scared to bits and he's looking up to you as his role model... aka superman. he needs your support right now and probably it's better that you talk to him face to face rather than on the phone. it's always more assuring to do that
2007-03-23 05:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my boyfriend once dumped me bcuz he thought he was gay and that was very hard for me to go through becuz i loved him. but no one should ever stop loving someone for who they love unless their love is blowing up our world!
2007-03-23 05:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cool Chick 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You handled it exactly right. Bless you
2007-03-23 05:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Ray T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋