i discovered he was flirting with two different women on skype
he told them he is single.
we are married for 3 years
the women are from different countries
he said he was fooling around and didnt mean all he said.
i broke his lap top.
2007-03-23 05:01:39 · 49 answers · asked by helpmegetaname 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it sounds like he was investigating whether or not he still "has it" .since they are from other countries I doubt he was seriously "looking for action"
He loves you or he would be looking closer to home.
naturally, If you aren't giving him what he needs at night he could start looking closer to where you two live. He hasn't started that yet so you are still OK.
You need to start flirting with him a little bit and laughing at his stupid jokes. that is what these girls are doing.
That said:..........
He is a married man and should not be trying to attract other woman to him .He needs to grow up and stimulate activities between you both.
Its not ok that he is doing this and you have every right to be hurt and angry. He will be lucky indeed if you don't rip his head off. Its good you are nipping this sneaky crap off in the bud. He should be ashamed and you ask him to apologize for giving you cause to ask people you don't even know for advice.
The little butthole .... now kiss and make up you have a marriage to get on with. Good luck little sweet!
2007-03-23 05:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how you would be angry and hurt over what't you've found out. I would be too..
However, breaking his laptop does not solve the problem. There is something deeper going on, something that is causing him to seek women online. You need to talk with your husband and find out why he has been doing those things.. Breaking his computer doesn't mean the problem ends there.
Of course, there is a slight chance that he really was just "fooling around". I've known guys who are into that, and they just laugh about the woman who fall for what they say. They act like it's just a big joke, and nothing more. So, I think it could be possible that it's nothing..
But, being as he is your husband.. he has no reason to be talking to random women online. He has you to talk to, and to spend time with. So regardless of the reason, he doesn't need to be seeking out other women to talk to.
Tearing up things, isn't the way to handle any issue within your marriage. You need to communicate with words and feelings, not by breaking things because you are mad.
Just talk to your husband, and hopefully everything will work out just fine.
2007-03-23 09:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you discovered was only the tip of the iceberg. If he does this at home, there's a great chance he's doing things like myspace, craigslist etc. etc. - in his everyday fantasy of appearing/talking about being larger-than-life for the foreign dingbats that believe an ordinary American = an exciting life. He's using the USA's brand, so to speak to better his sex-appeal online.. and THAT is a problem for you. He's 1) immature and 2) he's sneaky. Many people will explain & apologize-away for what he's doing... and say it's your fault, or his phase or situation etc. etc. They don't really understand life and action/reaction. Drill him, bore through his habits and expose them all -- bet he's also big into porn, at that. If he can't grow up now, you're going to have to either live with his habits or show him the door asap before your life gets too complicated.
2007-03-23 05:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your anger. You will have a decision to make now. Can you remain in a relationship with a man you cannot trust? What do you need from him in order for him to ragain your trust? And the biggest question is - will he be willing to do what's necessary in order to regain your trust?
Know that you can't control this man - all you can control is yourself - and your actions.
if you don't have kids - the decision is just about YOU. You are not responsible for anybody else. If you made babies with this man - you'll have more to take into account. Split homes are not always the best for kids - but sometimes they are better than an ugly hateful home.
Work through the anger. It will take you to a better place. You'll be able to think it through clearly soon.
Meanwhile - don't rip off his head. That would be messy - and you'd be left to clean it up.
2007-03-23 05:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by liddabet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U did the right thing by confronting him. He should have never told any one that even if they are else were.
U need to pull Ur self together and show him that u will not stand for his s*th. He need to respect u and Ur relationship if he can't then he need to be tossed out with all the other trash.
He as to gain Ur trust again.
this time make him work harder than b4.
I really wish u the best I hope He changes.
Keep Ur eyes open all the time once they do it they will continue to do it.
2007-03-23 06:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is up with your marriage. There is something missing , and it might be easy to fix. Take charge, decide what you want out of the relationship and suggest some kind of action plan. Night out to talk about what's bothering either of you, a book ( relationship rescue) etc.
Usually things go to hell when you just let them slide. If something is up better fix it while it is fixable.
A set of rules is also fair. It is disrespectful to portray yourself as single when you are not and usually it means you are looking for trouble.
2007-03-23 05:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Georgie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because these women are in different countries, doesn't mean he is not guilty. If he's doing it to foreigners on the internet, who's to say he's not doing it to the chick behind the counter at the local coffee shop. You need to nip this in the bud now. I had the same experience with my wife, and it didn't turn out pretty. When I confronted her about the internet chatting, she fessed up to ALOT more. Good luck.
2007-03-23 05:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Society Dweller 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey...he is probably talking crap with others as well...you should have not broken his laptop but taken it to be checked out by some geek to know for sure. If he isn't talking with anyone else...he eventually will...keep a short leash...take it from a guy who talks with other guys and who knows from experience. I hope there are no kids involved yet...then it is much easier to walk away if necessary. Hey...who knows, perhaps he is unlike everyone else and is being truthful to you! I hope so. Wish you the best and be glad you gound out so soon...3 years is very soon.
2007-03-23 05:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by frankieboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did no longer rip heads off dollies. i became their hairdresser with the wild scissors! If it did no longer value lots i might recommend you have them bronzed! yet you could spray paint them bronze and positioned them in a field and pull them out while lil omit Polly wallet plastic well-being practitioner gets married! super communication piece for the engagement social gathering, assembly the hot boyfriend or on the reception of the marriage! LOL
2016-10-01 09:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by gizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say good job on breaking the laptop! But I wouldn't go ripping off his head just yet. He might have just been having fun. I'd worry about seeing him flirt in real life than online. Oh yeah, and be sneaky and check his email. LOL
2007-03-23 05:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋