I have been in a long distance relationship (2,400 miles) for over 6 months now. He thinks that we are meant to be, I am not so sure. I've been seperated for 14 months, but only officially divorced since this week (lawyer delays). When my ex left, it was his idea, not mine. So I've been damaged. And when ever I think of marrying this guy, it scares me. He is a great guy and very patient, so I'm just wondering if it's selfish of me to put him through all this, when he could be looking elsewhere...
2007-03-23 04:51:37 · 7 answers · asked by nc girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a LDR. Do you really know this person, or do you only know what he tells you about himself? I would be very leery of making a commitment.
2007-03-23 04:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How in the world could you possibly know a person entirely in 6 months? And from long distance to boot! Sounds to me you are acting insecure based on your being hurt from your marriage and trying to fill the void by contemplating this new relationship. You must be very young if you can't see that. 2400 miles and 6 months? Good Grief!
2007-03-23 05:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LDR is hard to handle and maintain but you would only know the guy once u meet him in person. Seeing and being w/ him in real will be the testing ground for you to know if you are already ready to commit yourself again, if what you really feel for him is love and not just bec "he was there when you needed someone", and most esp for u to know if he is really real. Seeing and being w/ him is just a beginning of a new phase in your relationship and it doesnt necessarily mean that you will have to marry him already.
2007-03-23 05:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think you know this guy well enough to be planning a future with him. He is a big boy so if you are taking to long he will move on. Take it one day at a time and don't be pushed into going any faster.
2007-03-23 05:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being that it's long distance may actually help you! you get the space and time to heal without the new guy being in your face all the time. but if you don't feel you're ready for a relationship then don't be, do what you feel is best for yourself
2007-03-23 04:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 2400 miles away - are you planning on moving? Or is he? What makes you think he isn't looking at others 2400 miles away. He's a rebound. Time to heal now.
2007-03-23 05:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes.................If you have to ask, it isn't.
2007-03-23 05:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋