Basically i'm turns 18 this coming july and i think i am pregnant.I cant help it!I want abort it..?

Question

Problem is, i have no enough money since i just wanted to begin my new life in polytechnic.
Must i tell my parents? I'm sure my parents esp my dad will kick me out from the house.
Must i have their consent in order to abort?
Is it by getting pregnant, my future will be ruin?
Can i still go to school like the others with my tummy that is getting bigger and bigger as day goes by?
Gosh i'm in dilemma. Help me please.

Answer 1

You can still go to school while pregnant, and then you will be prepared to make a life for yourself and your child. Please don't abort.

Answer 2

You did not become pregnant by yourself, your boyfriend should help you get the money for the abortion.
I do not know where you live. The laws are different in each state. Some doctors require parental consent if the patient is under 18 years old. Talk to a doctor or a nurse to find out for sure.
Pregnancy does not have to ruin your life, but it will definately change your life.
Schools can't discriminate against pregnant students, they must make accomadations for pregnant students just like any other student with special requirements like wheelchairs, asthma, food allergies, dyslexia and so on. In the USA, everyone has a right to get an education.
I hope that you are wrong about your parents, but if they do decide to kick you out, you should know that they can't legally do that until you turn 18, they have to keep you until then. If you need the police to remind them of that, you can call the police.

Answer 3

Well first calm down - life is not over! I am not sure what your religious beliefs or affiliations are but I do not sit in a position of judgment - there are people who would gladly take this baby for you and you can delay your schooling until after you have it. On the other hand if you have an abortion, you may end up wishing that you hadn't and can you live with it being on you conscience that you had gotten rid of a life?

I believe you can talk to your parents and come up with an agreement on what you should do for your life and with the child.

As far as an abortion, you can go to planned parenthood and I don't believe that their charge is that much and they will make a referral for you and you would not need a parent's consent.

Answer 4

I know that this was not a question put out here to be graded for spelling errors or mistakes. I am not sure why that attack seemed okay for someone to do.
I do believe this is your child, you have the right to make the choice on having the baby or not. I don't agree with abortion at all. But, it's not my life.
I just wanted a chance to give you a few things to think about...
Having Unprotected Sex? If you were protecting, then obviously you didn't follow through on some of those details or you wouldn't be pregnant. If you are going to have sex, you have to know that ultimately, normally, it's a baby that happens. Sex was made by God for the purpose of production.
You can follow through with your life, totally.
You can provide what you need for the baby.
I was a teen mother, having my first at age 17 and my forth at age 22. So, what was said earlier about having another child within two years is true.
I have lived and I am living an awesome, productive life, my children are now 18 years old down to 13 years old. I would have only changed one thing, I would have waitied. But, change having any of them? I could not imagine my life without my first born, let alone my last born. So, I probably wouldn't change anything. I made a mistake, but it's a mistake, I would not change for anything in this world. Thus making it, not a mistake anymore. It's the best mistake I ever made.
You need to talk to your parents, they may be angry, but have a back up plan too, somewhere to stay, they may kick you out at first, I know that happens, but eventually they will except the wonderful grandchild you are giving them.
If you choose to abort this child, you will never forget it, you will live in turmoil and it wil bother you the rest of your life and the guilt willl be hard. Even adoption is better than aboprtion because at least you are giving the child a chance.
Every child is ordained by God, every child, not just a few. There are no such things as mistakes when it comes to the making of a child in God's eyes and point of view.
You can still go to school, just be determined and follow through.
Remember, it's hard to blame and be mad at God for allowing this to happen, when you were the one who made the choice to have sex.
So, it's not God's fault either.
As a teen mother and a mother of teens now, I would be upset, but, I would love my child and my gradchild. The reason for being upset, is because I know how hard it will be, but I also know as a teen mother, it's possible to have a full life and raise a wonderful child/ren as well.
Find out your options and go over pros and cons and make sure this is what you want.
There are so many pros and cons to all the possible choices. I do agree with going to Planned Parenthood and get some answers and possible choices.
You sound like a pretty upset teen and I do encourage to find someone to talk to.
Some teens sell us parents short, we care, and we want what's best for you, so chances are your parents are going to love you anyway.
Hope it all works out and you find the answers you are seeking.
I have carried on long enough. Smile and know that God loves you and is with you. Take a deep breath and take your time in making a choice.
Just take your time, don't rush into anything.
If you need to talk, I am here, you can get me on Yahoo...

Answer 5

Abortion is your choice, but keep in mind their are millions of woman out their who cannot conceive and would do anything for a child, maybe try thinking about adoption! I know that woul be hard but what makes you think abortion won't be any harder on you? I mean you will be killing a child who could very well grow up in a loving home with great parents who actually want them..
Yes your parents will probably be pissed but they will get over it, they can't hate you forever your their child and they love you..
Don't let you being pregnant interfer with your life or school, I have known many woman who became pregnant and stayed in school graduated and made something of themselves. Yes it will be hard but you can do it, you have what it takes and you need to remember that..
They have schools for teenage mom's, pregnant woman even the babies daddies can go their with you! My real good friend found out she was pregnant at 15 she went to this school for teenage mothers and remained in that school even after the baby was born and she graduated..
Just don't throw your life away, don't quite what your doing, nothing..
First thing you need to do is take a pregnancy test to find out for sure or go get a blood test, then TELL YOUR PARENTS, no matter how they will feel about this at first they will help you and help you make the right decision....

Answer 6

First of all, make sure that you ARE pregnant. Go get a pregnancy test if you haven't already and see. Then, go to a gynocologist or a Planned Parenthood.

No, you don't need to tell your parents. There is a doctor-patient confidentiality agreement. You do not need their consent.

As for ruining your future, a baby will not. You can still go to school, even though you'll be getting bigger. A child can be one of the most precious gifts anyone can have. You might regret in the long run, like most abortion patients do, of having your baby aborted.

However, if you do decide a abortion is necessary, then go to a Planned Parenthood and they can look into options for you.

Good Luck & I really hope you make the right decision.
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Answer 7

Please don't listen to these Bible-Beaters. You DO NOT need to be going through a friggin' pregnancy at 18, for God's sake. It will ruin your life...and you child's life. Right now, it is nothing more than a handful of cells that cannot think or feel.

Find the money, get the abortion, and get your life back. Having a child at 18 will most definitely be the biggest mistake you will ever make. And it won't be the kind of "learning mistake" that you gain experience from...it will be the kind of "oh my God, I'm 18, my body is ruined, and now I have to support another human being somehow and drop out of school" mistake.

Answer 8

If money is the issue, you should consider adoption. especially if you don't want to abort the baby. Any adoptive parent will pay your living expenses, you dr. bills, electricity, cable, etcetera. Believe me, there are a lot of families just hoping for a baby like yours. You can still go to school and be pregnant at the same time. Check it out before you decide anything. I know what I'm talking about, I have been trying to adopt for a while now.

Answer 9

If you think you are pregnant, you need to get a test and find out for sure. If you are, you need to really do some soul searching to figure out if abortion is right for you.
My sister had an abortion at 17. She needed parental conset.
My parents wouldn't give it. So, she asked our aunt to pose as mom. My aunt did.
I went along with them to the clinic cause I wanted to see
what it was like.
They let me in the room with my sister, cause my aunt
didn't want to be in there.
They gave my sister a gown thing to wear and told her to get undressed and get up on a table. She did. When the doctor came back in, she did an ultrasound to find out where the baby was in my sisters uterus. My sister couldn't see
the ulrasound, but I could. It was on a tv like screen. The baby
had a head and arms and legs and you could even see its eyes and heart beat.
The doctor told her she was about 13 weeks pregnant and would have to have a different kind of abortion. It would take 2 visits instead of one.
The first part he put my sister up in the stirrups and put in a speculum in her vagina, then he stuck some thing in her cervix to help it dialate.
Then he told us to come back the next day.
My sister had some horrible cramps that night and some spoting.
The next day, it was the same as before, except the doctor took out the stuff he put in her cervix. Then, he told her she'd have quite a bit of intense painful cramping while he dialated her cervix some more. It most of been pretty bad cause she screamed a few times.
There was a lot of blood on the papers under her and stuff
while he was doing that.
Then he put this vacum thing inside her and turned it on .
That most of hurt even worse cause she screamed and almost broke my hand cause she squeezed so hard.
He shut the vacum thing off in a few minutes and took it and the speculum out.
Then he told my sister to relax, he'd be back in after he made sure they got all the baby out.
He picked up the container the vacum thing was hooked to and I saw something pretty gross. A very tiny baby cut into four pieces floating around in blood.
I told my sister I had to go to the bathroom and I left the room.
I found my aunt. I told her I was sick to my stomach and my sister would be awhile. My aunt drove me home.
I told my mom and dad what had happened.
They went to the clinic and got my sister when she was ready to go and took her to the local hospital. My sister was in there for 2 weeks because she had a bad infection from it.
While she was in the hospital, I visited a lot. She made me promise never, ever to have an abortion (not that I ever would). She still goes to therapy ever week to help her get over the mental issues.
By the way your life isn't over if you are pregnant. It happens. My sister got pregnant, again, a year later. She went to school pregnant, got a part time job, worked until the day before she had the baby. She took a few weeks off from work and then i baby sat while she went back to work and school. She graduated high school and college. she's got a great job, is married, and has 9 kids now.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Well you really need to think hard. There are alot of couples out there that are looking for babies to complete their homes. I know because I was one of those couples. I spent 7 years trying to get pregnant. Then a young lady in your very situation came to us and made our every dream come true. That was 19 years ago. I never regretted it and neither did she. So please, just think about the life inside of you and the lives you could change by making a couple a family. Making a dream come true for someone else. How do you not know that this is a higher propose for you. This child could some day change the world. Just Think about it. Couples Pay for your hospital bills and pre-Natal care, so their is no expense to you. Our birth mother helped me fix the nursery. She was a blessing from God. She gave me the gift of life, a beautiful baby boy. It has not all been easy, but being a parent is never easy, but I love that boy, and I love that girl that gave of herself, and did not abort and gave that baby a chance for life. Think about it. Contact me if you want to talk. All the best.

Answer 11

Because that is the law. I mean some people can't even handle being in the military at that age. Why do we think that they can also drink responsiblilty at that age also. Also I have lived on 5 different bases and NONE of them let a soldier drink at the age of 18. I only know of one base in Texas that did and I am not even sure that they do now. So no even as a soldier on base, can you not drink. Wrong info.