2007-03-23 04:47:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, first, you have to be at least 25 years old, finished with college, and working in your career. Then you're ready to be in a serious relationship (you can date and have sex before that time, but nothing serious or exclusive).
Then, when you meet someone, and they make you happy and you are compatible in the bedroom, you may want to get married. You should live together for at least 1 year before getting married, so you can make sure that you can stand to live together and deal with each others ideosyncracies.
Once you are married, you should wait at least 5 years before having children. After 5 years, you have a good idea whether the marriage is stable and is going to last. Only bring a child into the world if it is going to have married parents the whole time it's growing up.
Also, from the time that you are sexually active, until 5 years into your marriage, there should be comprehensive use of birth control to prevent accidents. Some people know that they never want children. If you feel this way, then a vasectomy or tubal ligation is a good option, but condoms should still be used before marriage to protect against STD's.
Hope this helps!
2007-03-23 08:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should know that you are mentally mature before even considering marriage. So many people get married these days and turn around in a couple of years and get a divorce cause it is to hard. If you are not willing to fight to have a great relationship and go through all the bs along with the fun times you are not ready. If you truly do not love a person, don't get married because it is the right thing to do. You need to have a devoted heart and a right mind set to make this decision. Don't let people pressure you, this is your life. How many ex-spouses are you willing to have!!
2007-03-23 04:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are right with yourself, mentally,psychically, financially, and spiritually, if you have an education, to make the money and maintain yourself, then you are ready to fit someone else into your life.
That is just the start on the journey to marriage
Now this is the hard part, you need to find someone who is right with their self.
If they are lacking in any of the things I've mentioned keep looking.
Mental- you don't want a serial killer, your a wife beater do you?
Physical- If they can't take care of him self how could he take care of you?
Financial- If he doesn't have or is currently under employed chances are you are seeing the best he has to offer, which leads me to the education part, enough said here?
Spiritual- No he doesn't have to be the pope or a priest, or even thump a bible, but someone who, considers others, is kind caring and loving.
Hope this helps
2007-03-23 05:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know your ready when you know how the person will be in most situations.
So, you will know by spending time with him or her and know their personality, traits and, most importantly how they treat others and you.
Also, how do they handle conflict, frustration, anger? It will and does come up, so how do they handle it and can you live with how they handle things in the harder times?
Once you know these things, you will know if you do or don't want to be with them.
Be sure of that and look at your relationship from an objective perspective and viewpoint, as if a stranger were looking at it.
To me these are most important things since... if you can handle the difficult parts then everything else will work out.
Also, make sure you agree on views on some major things, such as, places or states you are willing and not willing to live, kids, do you or they want any?
Also, is their ways of belief different from yours and will or does that work out alright between you two? If so, then all should be ok but make sure to consider that.
2007-03-23 04:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't do so already, I recommend that you live together first. It is amazing how things change once you share everything. After a couple of years the little things are what destroy marriages.
Good luck!
2007-03-23 05:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually this is something that you just know. If you have any doubts or are questioning, you are not ready. don't force it, it will be a mistake.
2007-03-23 04:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi raina,
i do not know ur age. if ur 18+ ur ready to get married. need i tell u more? pl. ask again. enjoy the life!
2007-03-23 04:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by amarnath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know that the other person is the only one you love, that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, that you can't live without them, and that you want to spend the rest of your life making them happy.
2007-03-26 15:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just know and if you have to ask chances are you're not ready!
2007-03-23 04:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh yeah, you are not ready.
2007-03-23 04:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by marymouse26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋