Since my mother's recent death, a friend from work had been literally begging me to come and stay overnight at her house. This past weekend, I was finally able to - not because I really wanted to, but just to get her off my back. However, when I got ready to leave and go back home, she said "Just a minute" then proceeded to present me with a bill for $85. I was shocked. Naive me - I thought she was asking me to come and stay at her house out of the kindness of her heart, which I promptly expressed to her, then asked her if she was running a a bed and breakfast. She got huffy and replied that anyone would expect to pay for two meals (dinner the previous evening and breakfast the following morning) and for using a bedroom for which she would now have to clean and do laundry. Of course, I didn't pay her and left in a snit. Since then we haven't spoken and it's created some tension in the workplace. I just wanted to know if I should have handled it better? Should I have just paid her?
2007-03-23 04:43:02 · 10 answers · asked by weakestlink11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To answer the last question - she started working here about 10 year ago and we gradually became friends. She's 5 years older than I am. What really bothered me was the fact that I didn't even sleep that well. She and her husband argued most of the evening. I couldn't hear what it was about because their bedroom was on the other end of the house form the "guest" room, but I can only surmise that he may not have been too happy at my staying and he was behind the "bill."
2007-03-23 05:43:51 · update #1
This is the one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard of. She might have mentioned the fee before you stayed there. Then you could have opted to stay at a motel 8 for cheaper.
2007-03-23 04:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she asked you to come over and stay the night then that was on her. If she did not explain to you that you had to pay to spend the night then that is on her not you. You were thinking that she was being a friend to you but obviously she was just trying to use you to get paid.
A friend would not do this to another friend so forget about her and how she tried to rip you off and if she keeps on pushing the issue........let her take you to court and see who would win in a situation such as this. This is a disgrace.
2007-03-23 05:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a friggin wacko ... anyone would not expect a friend to pay for such a thing - I ve had people come and stay for weeks to visit me and I have never expected a thing except good conversation .You did the right thing dont even waste your time thinking about a person like this . evening at someones house $85.00 -finding a real friend who would never ask for a dime priceless
2007-03-23 05:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by rooster 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
poor you who have to suffer the tension at work even though it's obviously your colleague's wrong doing. poor communication? not really. hardly anyone would expect such a bill anyway if she's invited to stay overnight. but if the tension begins to disturb your work, at least solve the problem, keep a distance and don't step in her house ever!
2007-03-23 05:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by tikuz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what in the world? your friend must be crazy. you don't invite someone to stay over then try to charge them. shes way out of line. you handled it the right way. i probably would have ripped that bill up and then gave her the finger as a peel out of her driveway.
2007-03-23 04:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
"Friend"???? I think she's nervey!!! Hey, don't let it bother you. Just let everyone at work know that she's "charging" for friendship. And next time, don't do anything like that to get some off of your back. I wouldn't have paid her either. Godloveya.
2007-03-23 04:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 10:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're both a little to blame. Poor communication here, She should have indicated that she expected to be compensated for her hospitality and you just blundered into this assuming it was gratis. NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING! I hope at least you learned to ask and get terms straightened out beforehand.
BTW - How long have you two been "friends?"
2007-03-23 05:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by debodun 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
cant say that i blame u ! i mean u were invited to stay and all so i would say you are fine some friend u got there.
2007-03-23 04:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a jerk for that. You did the right thing by not paying her.
2007-03-23 04:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋