me or my child?

Question

i am 19 years old, married 2 years ago,i have one child but i would run away with my ex boy friend ,so what?

Answer 1

without your child? you are selfish and unfit mother

Answer 2

You sound like a very confused, unhappy teenager. You married, maybe because you were pregnant, at seventeen. Presumably this ex is a boyfriend from when you were 15/16 years old. It's not easy raising a child and there's not a lot of time for clubbing and havng fun that singles get to do. Don't be fooled into thinking that life will be better if you run away from your husband and child with your ex. You reap what you sow. If this ex. doesn't respect your marriage, if there is no room in your relationship for your baby, what kind of a partner will he be. Sounds like he's not into responsibilities either, how long before he gets bored and takes of? You may be restless and under pressure at the momemt but talk to your husband, make your marriage work, do it together, plan outings for the three of you- picnics cost nothing, or a day in the country. Don't ruin three lives for momentary gratification. Bless you.

Answer 3

Sounds like you got married and had a child BOTH before you were ready to! What about your husband? You would just run off with some old flame and break off with your husband? would you be dragging the poor innocent kid around with you and causing the father not to see the child and the child not to have the father's love? YOU are a self-centered jerk! You made your decisions 2 years ago, now you need to live with them. Your child comes 1st!!

Answer 4

First you need to remind yourself why is he an ex? Then you need to ask yourself why do you want to run away? We all have problems in marriage and we probably all fantasize about running away and starting over. A commitment such as marriage means that you will look at the problems and try to work on them together. Sometimes al you need is a babysitter once a week so you and your husband can spend some quality time away from the kids. Sometimes what you might need is some time with girlfriends to nurture your inner self. We were people before we were wives and mothers, ands it ok to want to take care of ourselves too.

Answer 5

What??? You would leave your baby??? Please tell me I am reading wrong!!! What is your problem? I was married three years ago and am 20 with two kids. Believe me if you think what you have got is hard you are sadly mistaken. YOU had that baby. No one forced you. THAT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!! YOU DO NOT JUST WALK OUT ON BEING A PARENT. YOU HAVE GOT SOME SERIOUS MENTAL ISSUES. I SAY SEEK HELP. DON'T RUN AWAY AT LEAST. IF YOU ARE SO BAD OF A PARENT TO LEAVE YOU KID IN THE FIRST PLACE, SPEND TIME TO SET YOUR KID UP IN A FAMILY THAT WILL LOVE THE CHILD TURN YOUR HEAD AND NEVER COME BACK TO THE POOR BABY. ALSO CONSIDER STERILIZATION, I mean for your BRAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

That's really selfish of you. If you're a responsible adult you wouldn't have to really "run away" to be with your ex b/f. Running away is what children and teenagers do. What about your child? If you can't see yourself as a fit mother, then yes, leave him/her with your husband. But, if you're going to leave your child just because, then that just makes you to look like a selfish person. Your child is innocent in this and you shouldn't put him/her in this sort of situation. You should really rethink this and see what the best outcome would be for all sides.

Answer 7

Honey you really need to be on your own......with your child,
not run away only dogs give birth and then leave .

You seem to be having a oh sh.t I am a mother moment
and want to be young and free again ...that happens when you just have a baby.....grow up... work on your marriage or leave and take your child and sort yourself out...your ex is an excuse...... I think its a bit of post partum depression see a doctor.

Answer 8

First of all, leave your child, how could you do that? And second, if the guy you want to run off with would even consider being with you after you left your child hes no better than you are.

Answer 9

WOW.. You are selfish. Your child should always come first up until the time they move out of your house and into college!! If you are not happy with your marriage, go to counseling and try to resolve the issues you are having. Divorce is a cop out, and you are using your ex to try and get away. face your problems and your fears and do what is best for the kid, not yourself! It isn't about just you anymore. Grow up and be a freaking parent!!

Answer 10

OK - that SO WHAT at the end is loaded with defensiveness. You had to know you'd get strong reactions simply by ending your comment like this.

You are a baby who had a baby, but let me tell you nothing will be better running to the ex. Planning doesn't seem to be your forte.

Think about your decisions and the consequences because your actions don't just effect you anymore!

No one will be able to make you happy until you decide to be.

Answer 11

Are you talking about abandoning your child? You should have thought of that before getting pregnant.

selfish. childish. flat-out unfit.

Motherhood can be rough, I know-but boyfriends, and hell, even husbands are TEMPORARY. One good fight, some signatures on a paper, and that man is GONE. Kids are a lifelong commitment-not something you take care of inbetween men.

Second thought-maybe you should leave that kid with someone more capable. They'd have a better shot at growing up in a safe environment-and you can explain how a man was more important than them later on, when that man is long gone and your child resents you.