how can be more practical than emotional ?

Question

especially when feelings hurt us and make us live the past
(past memories, past feelings)

Answer 1

Feelings can be good or bad but they are fleeting unless our mind wants to keep tossing them about and then we become emotional more than practical. Becoming more practical is not about forgetting emotions as much as it is staying in the moment and appreciate the new emotions that are attached to our present actions and experiences.

Answer 2

some suggestions for you:
1. Remember that you remember your own past far better than anyone else does. This means that you can start afresh anytime without getting hung up about past embarrassments and mistakes, because, to tell you the truth, most people spend almost no time thinking about you or what you did in the past.

2. Sometimes things that hurt our feelings in the past were not as bad as we remember them. After dwelling on hurtful things for a long time, your mind can make them bigger than they were at the time.

3. Sometimes when people hurt our feelings, they really had no intention of doing so. They may have said something they think of as neutral, and our own particular emotional make-up can make us interpret it in the worst possible way.

4. Sometimes when people hurt us, it's way more of a reflection on the other person than it is on us. Other people have their problems too, and they can project their feelings on you, when you really had little to do with the negativity they are expressing.

5. Think about how much you have learned through all your pain, and realize that things like that won't hurt so much in the future, because of the wisdom you have gained.

6. Focus on how you can be kind and helpful to other your fellow creatures rather than thinking so much about yourself. Whenever you feel a "pity party" coming on, do something for someone else: call an elderly relative, volunteer somewhere, make cookies for a friend, etc.

7. Most important of all is that when you have hurt on the inside that won't go away with these practical tips, you need to talk to a professional mental health professional. they will help you put things in perspective, and sort out things and people you need to eliminate from your life, and the things and people you should keep. It's possible you are suffering from a clinical depression, and you would benefit from anti-depressant medicine.

Answer 3

I Think that you can't force yourself to be anything if that is what you feel at the time - most people won't like to admit it, but we are dominated by our emotions, whether it be anger, frustration, numbness, apathy, sadness, happiness, hysteria, depression and so on.... Some emotions have increasing severity, others are just normal everyday emotions which go unnoticed, or aren't a major factor day to day. It would be nice to wake up in the morning and not feel down about going to work, or going to bed and not minding the neighbours blasting music well into the night. But we get effected and 'affected' by a tremendous ammount of things in life, it's just personal to you how you process your emotions and deal with them....

Ok, so you feel like you do... But is it making you a whole person? Ask yourself these questions before you start swimming into anything -

Is it going to help your day to day life and relationships if you aren't a whole person?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
How do you feel about yourself?
How do you truly feel about your past? What can't be changed in the past anyway? What can be changed now?
What can you do to make yourself feel stronger?
Do you want to spend the whole of your life like this?
Can you see the light at the end of this?

If you want to stop feeling like this and evolve, think about what 'you' want, and not the shadow of yourself - not the people from your past, and not even people in your current life.
Think of ways that you can get there step by step, without making any unrealistic goals.
Once you have hit one or two or maybe even three goals - keep going; if you have a time that you think you can't do it, or it's usless and all of the negative setbacks and thoughts keep cycling around your head - say this to yourself>
'Ya I feel really rubbish, but I'm going to keep feeling rubbish till I can get somewhere. I've got this far with my goals and it would be more counterproductive to stop now, and give up than it would be to keep going positively and keeping in mind that I have nothing to lose - so I will grit my teeth and not let go of something that could change'
No one can stop how you feel, but you can do things which will regulate your emotions or train yourself to be strong - and if you are in a really bad state talk to someone about it

Answer 4

Very simple:

Remind yourself that emotions are no facts and therefore emotions do not help you but get in your way.

Be aware that what ever emotion you feel, it does not help to solve the situation, it is just dwelling in emotions (good or bad ones), whilst in order to function, you need to incorporate the facts of life, not your emotions.

This strategy helps me, perhaps it works for you, too.

Answer 5

Be more practical because all emotions do is hurt. Find an answer to the problem instead of whining like a puny b!tch and when you solve the problem, emotionally you will feel much better.

Answer 6

impenetrable emotionless BARRIERS! Not with loved ones, mind you, but everything else that could happen (always thinking in terms of worst case scenario), good bad indifferent, I've steeled myself against, to avoid the inevitable irrational emotional response required for hurt feelings, crying, sadness, fear, worry,doubt,suspicion,paranoia,anger,pain
Does that make me a cold hearted bastard? Meybe,
then agin i don't really care whatchya think do i?
meybe...
best bet?
....go buy a CD player,
then go buy 2 Cd's called deftones
"Adrenaline" & "around the fur"
same band both albums

CRANK it way up,
listen repeatedly for 24 hours,
if symptoms persist,
lather and repeat.

Answer 7

hello pls.... dont go thro' the emotional in some critical situations that is very dangerous
cause i faced this like once
but i lost my self in so.......... many matters , afterwards i didnt get them
so in any case dont get emotional think alot
if they r sweer memories of past feelings go on them
sometimes they give u lot of relief and happiness
if those r hurting u lot forget them on the spot
and continue with ur present what ever it may be

Answer 8

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