im a caucasian male who is very intrested in a africian american female. she feels the same . our families frown on it though . looking for answers who have dealt with this.
2007-03-23 04:18:16 · 13 answers · asked by James 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm a black women, I've dated a white man, before. You do what makes you happy. People will pay alot of money just to find the right women for them. If you have something good don't throw is away, because of what people say. There is alway going be a person who is not going to like you for whatever reason.
2007-03-23 04:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's difficult to change or expect that someone as old as your parents are going to have a change of mind in regards to this.
I've been in this situation and in retrospect have found the better solution is to be honest with how far along you relationship is? You don't want to make a lot of hay out of nothing as the expression goes.
What I mean is this: is your relationship serious enough that it involves much interaction with each other's parents? If not, don't worry about it at this point. they see it as new and not serious.
Go about the relationship on your own time scale. Take your time. You may be broken up after a month anyway so focus on each other and not this problem.
If it does become serious they should recognize that you two are happy with each other and they should be happy because you are happy and they are good parents who love their children's happiness.
If this is not the case you will figue something out accordingly. Trust me, love will motivate you to do so.
So, rather than get distracted with this issue, try to maintain the focus naturally on each other and the progress of the relationship itself-the rest is just noise at this point.
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 04:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women is I am involved with is a beautiful carribean-african american and I am from France and they marry black women all the time over there so my family never had a problem with it but her father was a little skeptical at first but now everything is great.
I will be that way too if I have a daughter who brought a guy home no matter what race he is.
2007-03-23 04:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Boulos 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's sad that the families feel that way. Race should never be a factor in ANYTHING. Don't go along with what your families feel, go for how you two feel about each other. Just remember, there really is no color. Good luck to the both of you!
2007-03-23 15:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by S.F. Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you need to live your life. If she's a decent girl, your families will come around to it, they mostly always do contrary to popular opinion.
Here's what you're going to encounter. You'll encounter almost nothing from everyday people, in fact you'll meet more prople and likely be accepted more in circles you never thought you would be accepted in. The only real racism problems you guys are going to encounter is going to be from the people who supposedly love you... your family members.
2007-03-23 04:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If each of your families truly love and care for you, the only thing they should be concerned with is your happiness. It's difficult for people to get past their own hang-ups on certain views, and that's normal. Just do what makes you happy, treat her well, and let each of your families see how happy you make each other. They'll come around.
2007-03-23 04:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm black and I'm engaged to a white/asian guy. Our families are completely okay with it, but even if they weren't I would still follow my heart. If you really care about each other then try to make things work and maybe your parents will eventually realize that you're happy and they'll support you.
2007-03-23 04:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Serenity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really into eachother then why does it matter what others think? This is your relationship not your guy's parents. Is race the only issue why the parents do not want you guys together? If that is it than they need to get over it.
2007-03-23 04:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by SoySrtaBonita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I have not personally beem in an interracial relationship (although I'd like to), your families need to be happy for you both. There are more important things than the color of your skin.
2007-03-23 06:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm a caucasian girl who dated an african american girl. just because your family frowns at it doesn't mean they are right so do what ever you want.
2007-03-23 04:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋