Under cover brothers only!?

Question

Why do guy not consider yourseleves gay!

and why are you lieing about your sexual preference

Answer 1

I know i will get flamed but as everyone knows i do not care. Gay in todays world probably consists of 90% fakers and 10% true gay people. The ones that are lieing about their prefrence are most likely in that 10% area. Being truely gay is a HARD thing to bear. Lots of confusion, lots of things that dont add up. And the Question of "why am i this way". For the other 90% being gay is HARD as a headline right before they tell you their sob story about how people dont like them now. I lived with a gay guy for 4 years. And he Tried for years to be straight. He even tried to marry a woman but he only did it because of all the pressure. Seeing alot of things in the gay community i saw first hand all of the fakers. The lonely people who just want something diffrent. Or so they can "be" diffrent themselves. To answer your question, the people lying are going through alot of emotional turmoil and it isn't that easy for them to abandon all the things they deem right/wrong, or normal just because of sexual preference. I was once shown information saying that 1 in 3 people in the US are gay. 1 in 9 of those stay gay their entire lives. So that means that 1 in 27 people are actually gay, the others only play the role. I am not very accurate, i only watched the scenarios unfold, and since i did not participate, and cannot fathom what is going on in their minds, i can only guess and use numbers and statistics. I also watched my roomate find LOTS of "wannabe" gay partners. It was halarious because he was very frank about things, saying they are fake, and they only do it for the attention. But he didn't mind, some of them he had for companionship other for sex, but all in all, i learned alot. Hope this helps, it's not very on point because i am not part of the gay community so i can only assume certian things.

Answer 2

GIRL....i wanna know this too! I'm reading that book by J.L King, On The Down Low. It's amazing how many men are on the DL. It's disgusting to me. If you wanna be bi, fine. Do what makes u happy. BUT you need to be honest to whomever you are doing it with and DEFINTELY be honest with your wife!

Answer 3

Ha! I'm glad someone brought that up.

I read on the "Down Low" too. I was surprised how casual it is.

I'm a white male but I also think this kind of "gay, but not gay" activity is prevalent among all males.

Growing up I have been propositioned for this kind of action by several friends.

I never did it, not bc I'm not gay, or anit-gay-it just didn't seem to "float my boat" like it seemed to for them.

They were embarrassed after seeing that I wasn't interested. I told them not to worry about it because I don't judge about what people want sexually but the relationship deteriated not bc of me but bc of them constantly worrying about me viewing them as gay.

I found this weird because to me it seemed they were gay-and I didn't mind that they were exploring or may be confused.

The thing is, they justify it by knwoing that they like women too. This, in their mind makes the straight; and at the same time is reinforce by men's ability (i do this) to see sex as an activity to get what they want (an orgasm). Messing around and playing with themselves is on par of hanging out. It's like coming over to play video games or b-ball. It's just something to do. And many see it as a bonding experience. Weird huh?

It seems contradictory, but I think it is on par with the same reasons my gf complains that sometimes I am not romantic but animalistic in just wanting sex. Men tend to be this way and it even applies to themselves when getting sex-in any way. It's casual, no strings attached, no relationship to deal with free sex! men will go for that always-that is why prostitution became so popular historically.

I imagine this is hard to understand for women. It is difficult for me but I feel in my gut it has something to do with it.

As for me, I just find male bodies and the penis repulsive. I like boobies and butts that women have.

If men could achieve such dirty, casual sex with women for free, trust me, they would revert back to that. We just know it's impossible to achieve.

Men are pigs for sex. We just can't help it. I think it is how we're wired.

I leave you on this: if being gay didn't have the religious and societal stigma that it does historically, do you think heterosexuality would be the dominant orientation? Think back to ancient Greece, the Romans. It wasn't culturally taboo; every man had a servant boy for pleasures. We tend to forget about history but what is going on now is just the prevalent cultural values of our time. But as the lifestyle becomes more common I would expect that you will see more men with men over time. Women for that matter too!