i am married but i still love my ex boy friend.now we are not in contact but i missed him a lot and i did not see him since 2 years,he also still love me.
my relation with my husband is so bad even if he is a kind person,but i don't have any feeling to him,so....
i feel tired and also duty but what can i do with my feelings,i can't control it
2007-03-23 04:13:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in america we call it a divorce....what country are you from?
2007-03-23 04:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opposit grass is always greener than the one you are standing on. How do you know you won't be bored or have problems with your X, because why is he called X then? you must have seperated once??
So don't only look the beautiful part of your X boyfriend, think and imagine if you were settled down with him, what would the reality be? May be you are a dreamer and you are imaginning that you'd never have any other problem with your X the problems of reality you are facing with your now husband.
Also, no one knows except yourself if this is because of your lifestyle - if your X would give you a better life than what your husband is giving you - money, in laws, relationship, sex.
Go for counciling with your husband, and clear things out so you both know what you want. May be he could give you even better thing than your X would, it's just that your husband is stupidly sleeping out there without realising he is very borring.
Knock his head and find out if there is gold in it? or an empty watermellon. If you don't knock, you won't know, and you will never have the gold of happiness of a beautiful man...? which one? - you'll know - the husband or the X.
2007-03-23 04:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can control your feelings and if you didn't allow your self the self indulgence of daydreaming about what you think could be,you would be concentrating on the kind person you are married too.I don't know if your marriage is an arranged one or not,but if it is so bad then divorce him.Just remember that what we want isn't usually what's best for us because we can be blinded by our desires.Remember to satisfy the flesh is like trying to hold back a flood gate with your finger.
2007-03-23 04:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why you went ahead and married your husband if you had feelings for your ex. but if you dont see a future together get out before you have children... beacause then you really will be emotionally wrecking lives. Work out what you REALLY want and do it life is too short.
2007-03-23 04:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart, if you know that there is no way to fix your marraige then you have to finish it with your husband before you can even think about starting up with your ex. but consider the reasons why he is your ex, will that relationship work the second time round? life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship
2007-03-23 04:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to separate from your husband for a while and re-evaluate your feelings. I wouldn't jump straight back with your ex but you need to think things through before moving on and potentially making a big mistake that you may regret.
2007-03-23 04:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exes look great when you are in a crappy relationship. You need to evaluate your current situation and happiness without worrying about your ex. Your ex probably made you feel a certain way and you miss that.
2007-03-23 04:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is stronger than other relationships, what ever decision u may take, u should not regret later for that,
think twice before u come to a conclusion bcoz this is u r life, it is only u who can make it heaven or hell
i think u dont have kids if u had kids u wont think this way
my words may seem to be harsh bcoz i am speaking truth
2007-03-23 23:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by nakshitra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up and give your poor husband a break..The boyfriend seems to be your focus so divorce that man and give him achance to find happiness too..Fantasy always looks better than reality even little girls know that..Make a choice and free up the air around you......AND, YOU DO CONTROLL EVERYTHING YOU DO!!AND EVERYTHING AROUND YOU!! If you WANT this ..Go and be happy....
2007-03-23 04:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Deon 6/2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married and your ex boyfriend is a ex boyfriend for a reason. why not try and rekindle romance and love in your marriage, especially if you hubby is a good person.
2007-03-23 04:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by avalon123 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think it's better if you tell your husband now so that he will not get hurt so much
& whatever happens to your relationship with him just try to accept it
before i leave this question
let me leave you with a line
if you are meant to be, you're meant to be. no matter what obstacles come your way
2007-03-27 01:04:27 · answer #11 · answered by monzy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋