question to indians (men) with arranged marriages......?

Question

What is your expectation from your wife on the 'first night' even if you don't know her very well? I am soon to be married and I just wanted to know what you guys expect on the first night. Might give me an idea about what my husband-to-be is expecting. I am to shy to ask him myself.

just adding. I am asking for your expectation in bed (sex) on the 'first night'. just to clear any doubts.

I guess my real question is if it is okay to ask my husband to wait for a while before we do anything. Is that weird or do other people do it too. I don't want to dissapoint him. But I am not really ready to do something like that yet. And what is the world does 'voyeurism' mean. One of the aswerer's seem to think I am lying in my question or something. I wasn't trying to convice you that I'm innocent or anything like that. I just want your honest opinion. And thanks to those who already answered.

Answer 1

I Did not expect anything from my wife.I wanted her to be the woman behind me.We just spoke about what we like as individuals like food,songs,persons,Place and so on.
Sex is part of life,but not life it is to give life(PROCREATION) and to relax and we have to give that to get it back in enjoyment.

Answer 2

Whoever you are, the very fact that you are posing this question on the net shows that you are not so innocent as you want us to believe.

There appears to be a degree of Voyeurism in your query and who knows, you yourself are thinking of some wild-ways yourself about which you need convincing.

Anyway, coming seriously to your point and what you have said about an arranged marriage is true, than the first night might be spent in exploring the limits without actually gaining much more than sores and resting after the preceding hectic marriage-celebrations.

Meanwhile, if you do not want to take chances with an early pregnancy than catch up on the latest methods of contraception from your already married friends.

Answer 3

Well, best would be to ask him only and that too directly. I am not sure, it depends upon the kind of person he is. Everybody has different expectations, somebody might be interested in ***, somebody might be interested in knowing and talking in genaral on that night. I'd say ask him, or get some common frnd who could share his views with you, or last resort check his sunsign and check, what exactly those kind of guys may want.

Answer 4

Unless the guy is very much rude / unemotional / extremist, every other boy would like to establish emotional relations first and of course closest, lawful and uninhibited proximity to a girl would certainly lead him to get physical also. The girl should behave as natural as she can; maintaining a beautiful mixture of girlish serenity and a bit forwardness.

Answer 5

just cool down and talk to ur partner on the first night and mostly u can pospone the act a little further if he is not very desperate.
in case he wants it badly, try to calm him down by being close to him and let him also make u comfortable so that u may like to do even on the first night.
voyeurism is something like watching someone doing something, it may be watching sex or something like that/

Answer 6

maybe the people answering your questions dont share ur social background, so they're not able to relate to ur question well.
i being an indian understand what u mean...so lemme tell you that most indian men 1st and foremost expect their wives to be virgins even when they themselves hv slept with dozens.
if ur talking with him and dating him then you would know his expectations better but what i'm saying is for men in general, so i would suggest that on the 1st night let him do things that he has decided and remain on the recieving end....else he would feel that u hv previous experiences of sexual nature ( indian males, atleast majority of them are hypocrites when it comes to sex )
you have your entire life to dominate him....let the 1st night be his :)
I'm sure he will be doing his homework too .

Answer 7

lol ok.. depend on differnt gilrs some gilrs are happy to go all the way some not so much... if its ur first time, then i advice you to use kyjelly... i am being serious other wise will hurt like hell i am a guy whne in that poisition always used ky.. further more... guys will expect to get some.. dont sya no to him.. but go with flow if he wants more then do that but he is happy to talk the do that, however if he expect you to make a move dont.. ok?

Answer 8

do ask him to do on another day. do it on that day but ask him for some time . but dont post pone to another day becausefirst night is a memorable day u should not dessopoint him in that day. so better u under stand him before marraige it will be better for u and ur hubby.dont hide any thing be frank. all the best

Answer 9

A chaste virgin girl. All unwed sexual activities (pre/post/extra marital), perverted & homosexual acts are specifically forbidden in Islam ALONE in clearly written unambiguous words as great sin & heinous crime punishable with publicly lashing / death by pelting stones.

In India mostly marriages are arranged by parents and elders & youngesters are bound to accept their selection. They are at liberty for unwed activities irrespective of caste, language, region or religion etc. and wedded relations have to be as decided by their elders & parents.
In India there is minimum age restriction for marriage (not for unwed sexual activities), 18+ for girls and 21+ for boys.
Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred or prohibited hence no offence punishable in any Indian law. A wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Pre marital sexual intercourses with other/s cannot be a ground to seek divorce under Hindu/Special Marriage Act. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock or without her husband’s consent or connivance.

Answer 10

look..he will be yourhusband and u should not hide anything frm ur husband if u think u r not ready yet u should him and explain him y u r not ready..u shuld trust him..and if u will trust him and u will share everyting wid him u will spend a good life wid him.
dont ignore this