2007-03-23 03:42:33 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
*SIGH*
I'm probably going to repeat what others have said but this is cause for introspection on your part as well as open communication with your ex. Ann Landers and Abigail Van Buren always asked readers "Are you better off with him...or without him?" That's the million dollar question.
By him asking if you can give it another try shows that you are very important to him and there's a love between you that is good. You know better than anyone that relationships take a lot of work. Are you willing to invest the energy to make it work? Is he?
I have no words of wisdom for you, buddy. I only know that you both need to sit down and talk this out. In the end, however, you must decide what is best for YOU.
2007-03-23 04:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by behrmark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am going through the same thing right now and i feel like only u can answer that question only u know what happened between u 2 and was it bad to enough to walk away for good?? is ur love strong enough for each other to get through whatever happened if u have 2 second guess than u should wait awhile be friends and build back up to a relationship if they are really serious than they won't mind waiting while u get ur head 2gether as the old saying goes if its meant to be it will be.
2007-03-23 03:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you think about what broke you up and have those issues changed? If he cheated on you or you cheated on him, are either of you able to forgive (and more importantly, forget), and are you both mature enough to actually commit this time? If you got bored with each other, have either of you done anything with your lives that will help keep a relationship vibrant and growing? If time and distance was the issue, has that changed?
Basically you want to examine why you broke up in the first place and if that has changed any. If it hasn't, then why bother because it won't work. What broke you up the 1st time will break you up again.
2007-03-23 03:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I really don't know much of the details about your situation, it is difficult for me to give very good advice. For me, it would be based on the reasons that you and he decided to break up! I think that Raynebowdiva's advice is the best that you can get here. If you still care about him, and BOTH sides are willing to make the commitment to make things work, I say go for it!
But remember, live and learn!
2007-03-23 03:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, ask yourself WHY is he an ex?? Was it for a valid reason? Were u happy in the relationship? Do u see the relationship actually progressing and growing if you were to get back together. You are a very intelligent person Craven. Think about these questions and figure out whether or not getting back into the situation will be good for YOU.
2007-03-23 03:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My bf and I were off and on for 4 years. The problems were that I was too wild and he was too uptight. We got back together once we've both matured a bit and I grew up and he loosened up and have been happily back together for 3 years and plan on marrying. Figure out what the problems were (why you broke up) and if those issued have been resolved and you still love them give it a go. I'm proof that it can work. If you are just lonely (or feel they are) and want to get back to that comfort factor than it probably won't work out.
2007-03-23 03:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask..do u luv him or like him a lot? If so don't let some trivial thing end your relationship.
If it is because of insecurity then let him know he has nothing to worry about. He could be the one that u are meant to be with. Just keep good communications going in your relationship.
Everyone makes mistakes. Relationships are give and take.
2007-03-23 05:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by mickeyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're confused, it isn't the right choice. You would have already given your answer if you were sure that getting back together was the right thing to do.
Backward steps are never advisable because the same old problems rise again, wasting both your time.
Go out, spend a year looking after yourself and not getting into any heavy relationships and find out who you really are nowadays.
2007-03-23 03:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by eclipsed2908 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason(s) you broke up in the first place will come back and haunt you if you try to give it another chance. Thins might even get worse this time around ~ I'd say no. Just move on.
2007-03-23 03:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully to your heart and trust your inner knowingness of what's best for you at this time.
Sometimes we leave a relationship only to recreate another that presents the same issues because we didn't explore and understand the lessons for ourselves in the previous one.
Sometimes we hang on to a relationship we've outgrown out of fear of 'what's next', 'who's next', 'is anyone else out there'. ;-)
Whatever you choose, be committed to your own growth, the love you share with others and to how your relationship with self and others helps to build and create a more loving world that works for all.
Trust you. And have fun while you're at it... ;-)
Angela.
http://www.spiritualityselfhelp.com
2007-03-23 04:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Angela Chen Shui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋