How to improve my marriage relationship?

Question

We've been married for 13 years. Every year our relationship is getting worse. We sleep in a separate bedroom since 5 years ago, because he told me I sleep violently and always pulled his blanket off him. We don't have an intimacy relationship since 9 years ago. So for him it's good if I sleep in a different bedroom. I'm 24 years younger than him, I thought married the much older guy would be good for me since I like the attention. But what I got so far just the opposite. He's a good provider financially, but he's never given me emotional support. Sometimes I feel so sad, I cry myself he's never asked me and basically just ignore me. Everytime we are in the same room, the conversation that comes up always about his job. We've never travelled together, so I ussually go somewhere with my friends. We are both working, but everytime we are home together, he always spends his time in front on the computer. I feel so lonely and depressed.
I need your suggestion what should I do?

Answer 1

If your husband is older, he may have a "hard time" getting it up so he is using this sleeping arrangement excuse as a way to avoid you asking for sex. If this is the case I suggest you talk to him and have him see a doctor to get on one of the meds out there that help with this problem.

If he has no physical issues, then he is just flat out not interested in you sexually. In that case you have two choices. Leave him or find a younger man to discreetly satisfy your needs.

Answer 2

First, tell your husband you are unhappy. Be specific about your feelings, including your concern about sleeping in separate bedrooms. It may be that he's hiding something, such as an inability to satisfy you sexually. If this is true, he needs to clue you in. Take a bold step and ask him if he's having problems in this regard. If he says he's not, tell him that you're not happy sleeping alone. Also let him know your feelings about spending time together. Tell him you would like to plan a trip and see what he says.

If you don't see a change in your husbands behavior after you've made him aware of your unhappiness, you may want to consider leaving.

Answer 3

Can you try talking to him about your feelings? Or, maybe suggest that you both take a class together. Developing some common interests or hobbies might help. Don't focus on the age difference.

Marriage counseling is an option if he is willing to go. Talking to a trusted friend or counselor would also help.

Answer 4

He is a very self-centered, selfish foolish man...
Tell him about the problems he is creating in the
marriage and that unless he can help you fix them
soon, you have no hope the marriage will last..

Answer 5

You need to sit him down and speak to him.

Also, you don't have to wait for him to plan a vacation. Plan one yourself for the both of you.

Get yourself back into that bed. Bring and extra blanket so you don't take his. Take control of the situation and I'm sure he'll respond.

Answer 6

Obviously this was not a match made in heaven. You were goldiggin'. Now see what happened. Save yourself the pain and agony and leave.

Answer 7

if you still love him and he still loves you dont give up on the maraige try getting counseling or cook a romantic dinner for just the 2 of you and make time that you and him can be a lone good luck

Answer 8

honesty is the best policy, tell him how you feel, when a man thinks his marriage is failing and he is losing his wife they always tend to snap back, and if he doesnt then maybe you should ocnsider being with someone who can be there for you emotionally.