I've recently become unemployed, and my long term girlfriend left me over a year ago. I am deeply unhappy with my own life, and yet I can't seem to stop telling others how to live their own... it's alienated my friends and it makes things worse. What should I do?
2007-03-23 03:35:39 · 20 answers · asked by The 9000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honestly. You should shut up.
You can't even handle your own life right now. Who wants advise from an unemployed unhappy person.
Get up from your computer and get a job.
2007-03-23 03:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by puggylover 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have done that before. In the worst moments of my life, I have gone and told people what they should be doing with their lives. It may me feel better knowing that I could make people feel happy about themselves even though my life was in the dumps. And anyway the advice I was giving to people was crap because I felt so bad.
All this bad things that are happening to you give you experience, which means that IN THE FUTURE you can give advice on people who are going through the same thing you are going through now. But now is not the time.
If you really want to help people, help yourself first. Get your priorities sorted, get a job and make your way out of your unhappiness. Life is too short to be unhappy. Think of the good things you have and have a positive attitude.
Good luck
2007-03-23 03:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by jamidami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the reason you're telling everyone else what to do is because your own life is spiraling out of control. It makes you feel as if you have control over something. It is definitely going to make things worse. You need to stop. Maybe try asking your friends for some advice for yourself. It may help to balance the situation. You definitely need friends at a time like this...don't alienate them.
2007-03-23 03:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well just try and look at things positively ya know, yes things are down and out right now but things won't be that way forever.You need to get out and do something with your friends and live a little. Life's only what you make it so just live it up things will be fine.
Chow.
2007-03-23 03:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget trying to fix your friends...you have already found it alienates them. Instead...when you are between on-line job searching come here and fix the world, one answer at a time.
Helping others goes a long way to help you take your mind off your own problems.
2007-03-23 03:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much like many people. First you have to learn to like yourself. I mean it. You should be the most important person in your life. If you do not take care of you and know who you are and honestly like you then what good are you to other people. Giving advice is okay but not fro someone that says one thing and does another. Give that advice to yourself first. 74
2007-03-23 03:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, your problem relates directly to your access to the internet. Stay away from your computer as much as possible! Go outside and experience a life beyond your screen, I say this in a good way, sometimes we can do with that. Believe me its a good feeling.
2007-03-23 03:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by MU.SK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving advice to friends and just give advice to people who need it on here. Keep looking for a job, something will come. Good luck
2007-03-23 03:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, keep your head up!
The advise thing... You have found the perfect web site for this problem... You can hand out advise all day long, right here on Y/A.
It has helped me with my "know it all" attitude.
2007-03-23 03:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they ask you for advice or do you just give it. From your friends reaction looks like you're just giving your own advice when no-one really wants to hear
2007-03-23 03:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋