me n my husband are christians.he reads the bible everyday,and I thought that it will change him,cuz it changed me for the better.were havin a good relationship till yesterday, I told him that im 4 weeks pregnant.after i told him,he just simply reply that it gave him a bad day!we lost a baby last year cuz of preterm.so,he told me he's not ready to have another 1,but he doesnt want me to use birthcontrol pill,cuz i might missed 1 and become pregnant.I did everything he wants,but now that I am pregnant,he doesnt talk to me and dont treat me right anymore.its hard for me,cuz i am really becoming emotional about things cuz of pregnancy,and he is not there to suppport me!pls,,,help me....dont know what to do...dnt want to lose this baby again...
2007-03-23 03:30:41 · 8 answers · asked by Kathleen C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Being a Christian, I would suggest prayer firstly. Pray for him. Pray together. Make a habit out of it. Simply reading the bible doesn't change someone's heart. Growing closer to God and loving Him more and more is what changes someone's heart.
Your husband is probably just scared. Try to talk to him about it and tell him you understand he doesn't want to go through that horrible experience again, neither do you. Tell him that becoming pregnant isn't always planned (My husband and I got pregnant on our honeymoon and wanted to wait 2 years, it wasn't "exciting" news at first but now it definitely is)... but although it's not planned, it will become one of the greatest experiences of your life.
Tell him you need him and his support and help to get through this. You're scared, too, and you don't want to lose another baby.
Be open and honest, but also supportive of his feelings, too. If things don't change and he still treats you poorly, let him know how it makes you feel, pray about it, and hopefully his heart will change.
If not, look to God. He will get you through it.
2007-03-23 03:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural that you feel like you might lose this baby too. Perhaps your husband is just too scared to even talk about it, though this is obviously one of the worst reactions he could have. Why don't you wait for a couple of days and then talk to him. Tell him that, as obvious as it sounds, you have to be there for each other; sit together and maybe read the bible, find something calming in it.
In the meantime you should talk to friends or to someone in your family who might make you feel better. Maybe you can even talk to one of your friends and he can talk to your husband, it sometimes helps to hear things from "outsiders"
2007-03-23 10:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by mother_of_three_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you just told him yesterday, then you said he doesn't talk to you or treat you right anymore??? It's only been 1 day! Maybe he is on shock or maybe he is scared of getting excited and then losing this one like the last one. Geez, just give him some time to process the who;e thing. It is a life changing experience.
2007-03-23 10:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 2 Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just went through a lot the first time and is just wasn't emotionally ready for it. Talk it out and ask him what he's feeling and so on, be his partner in this.
As for pregnancy, I've heard most women miscarry their first child, your chances of having a healthy child after-words go up. Hope that helps a bit.
Errr and maybe go talk to your pastor or something for some guidance.
2007-03-23 10:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might be afraid of being hurt or losing the baby. What true Chrisitian would not want ababy and ruin their day. I would go to counseling together
2007-03-23 10:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bored 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
things should get better with time. you need to give him time to adjust to your pregnancy. maybe he is worried about you and the baby. good luck!
2007-03-23 10:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, and keep praying =)
2007-03-23 10:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Stefanie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget god, it doesn't seem like hes helping one bit!! u need a bit of reality injected into that relationshp
2007-03-23 10:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋