he tells me to just be myself, but im still scared.
he tells me that because he loves me, that they will.
maybe im scared because.....
my moms parents hated my dad &
my dads parents hated my mom for
many years into their marraige 20 yrs to be
exact. too many reasons to name, but
mostly each of them being bullheaded.
so its natural for me to feel this way?! right?
2007-03-23 03:29:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't worry too much about it....he has already married you which shows that he can make the decision himself without their guidance. He is also confident that they will accept you, or he would have had you meet them already for their approval. Besides, you don't have to live with them....it will all be okay!
2007-03-23 03:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural to be a little nervous for the first time that you meet his folks. You want them to like you and accept you. I'd think there was something abnormal if you didn't feel that way.
You should be yourself but I'd add a few do's and don'ts:
1. Do dress fairly conservatively-that doesn't mean dress like a little old lady but kind of stay away from the stilleto heels or very low cut blouses.
2. Do either stay away completely from alcohol or only one
drink. You don't want to say anything stupid or make a fool of yourself.
3. Do smile a lot-a smile is the light on your face that let's world know that your heart is at home.
4. Avoid discussions about politics, sex and religion
5. Do be polite-good manners are a sign of proper upbringing
6. Don't order the most expensive items on the menu if you go out, even if it's your favorite food.
7. Do offer to help out in the kitchen if his mother is doing something or around the house (folding laundry or whatever)
While these are no guarantee that they'll like you, I think if you are yourself and do what I mention above, your chances are good.
Good luck. I'm sure you'll do fine!
2007-03-23 05:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband didn't meet my parents until the day before we got married! Just be yourself when you meet your in laws. If you're good enough for their son, then they will probably come to love you as one of their own in no time. If not, don't let it bother you. I do that with my mother in law. My husband's family is from a tropical island and I am white. She won't even eat food out of her culture!! It's her loss and doesn't bother me a bit.
2007-03-23 07:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering your family's history, it does seem natural for you to feel some apprehension. Relax and trust your husband's judgement this time. He knows his parents well and if he loves you, they probably will too. Just be yourself and everything will be fine. Best wishes.
2007-03-23 03:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you're married and haven't met his parents? They weren't at the wedding? Hmm. Well, just be yourself, if they like you, they like you, if they don't, they don't. You love your husband and he loves you, that's all that really matters.
2007-03-23 03:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be married and not know your husbands parents? just look at it like this.... You are already married to him so it really doesn't matter if they like you or not! ;) It will be fine!
2007-03-23 03:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be held accountable for the unreasonable foolishness of others...
Follow your husbands advice & lead...
They are also probably nervous about meeting you..
2007-03-23 04:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, either way he is married to you now an d you should be happy. besides they will probally love you for he ame reason your husband does
2007-03-23 03:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, but yet they are no Aliens I suppose, so chill out, it´s not like they´re gonna eat your liver is it??
2007-03-23 03:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gabriel G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they like you just go and talk to them.
2007-03-23 03:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by myshia h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋