today my friend told me that i thought i could controll everything and i needed to get over it that i couldnt?

Question

it made me think about this topic i mean am i really that controlling i dont want all of my friends to hate me and it scares me that i might be trying to controll things but not in their life only in mine why should that make me controlling and should i not be friends with this person anymore because she said this i mean i have NEVER tried to controll anything in anyone elses life not even my boyfriend and why should it be any of her buisness what i do and when and how i do it is she just trying to be a good friend or is she trying to break our friendship apart im so confused

p.s the only thing i did to controll anything was ask this guy if he could please stop picking up the bench that me and my friends were sitting on

thanxs for your help in advance


jacy

Answer 1

Ok, that's not controlling that's asking someone to do something. I would have been a lot more controlling then that if some idiot would have been picking up the bench I was on. I think you need to talk to her and see what her problem is. If that doesn't go anywhere go make some new friends because she doesn't sounds like a vary good one.

Answer 2

u dont mention ur ages here but from the benchpressing buddy's actions id say all of u are younger than me first of all there is a big difference in controlling as in abusive behaviour mental physical emotional i think from reading the questiion the guy was flirting ur friend likes him and she felt u were interrupting her flirt mode the most beautiful things about friends they are gifts and they will tell u honestly what they think but they stick around even when they know all our faults oddments and yes our strengths as in controllin urself and the things in ur life shes right theres very little if really anything we can control but we sure spend an enormous amount of time worrying about every little thing its wonderful that u are on a search to constantly improve urself only u can b in charge of ur destiny hug ur friend communication is the key u sound good for each other talk it over Good luck!

Answer 3

I think you need to talk to you friend, without fighting, and ask her what she means by you trying to control everything. It could just be that she is seeing something your not aware of that you may be doing, and she is trying to be a friend and kinda scared to say to much in case you were to get pissed at her. So with an open mind and not harsh words, go to her and talk it out.

Answer 4

Asking a guy to leave ya'll alone is not controlling. Its standing up for yourself. Just be strong and assertive w/o being a B*$#@ and you should be ok. And if others cant handle that its b/c they are insecure and jelous!