My Parents are considering marrying for the third time!?

Question

My mom and dad married in 1982. I was born in 1990. They divorced in 2000 after 18 years but they got back together and remarried in 2002. But they divorced again in 2004. Lately they have gotten close again and whil at a family dinner last night they announced they were dating again and are considering remarrying. After two failed marraiges is it possible a third time around will work out. Any opinions?

Sometimes I feel like I am living in a soap opera with all this stuff happening.

This is also ackward with my own wedding less than three weeks away (it will be on Easter).any please no one suggest a double wedding cause my wedding day is for me, my fiancee and my 3 year old daughter only.

Answer 1

It's possible that it will work this time. People grow and change constantly based on thier day to day experiences. It is strange the way little things can change your life. It sounds like they love each other but maybe they just find it hard to live together. I would think that if it has not turned out in thier favor twice already then the third would be doomed for failure as well. But you know, they say the 3rd time is a charm so maybe there is hope. It has to be hard on you though... all this back and forth with them. Tell them your concerns and how they have affected you with thier marriage/divorce history. There is not much you can do otherwise but hope for the best for them. Just remember you are lucky to have parents that love each other.

Answer 2

I though I was the only one to go a third round. My ex and I have been together for 27 years, married and divorced twice. We got back together after my engagement failed with another relationship. We married for the 3rd time and stayed together almost 3 years until we seperated again last year. We thought we had all bad behind us, just to find out they were still there hiding and even new ones popped up. We have finally come to the realization that it's definately time to move on. We'll always love each other, we have a 16 yr. old daughter, but we know we can't live together. My opinion is that the third time IS NOT a charm!

Answer 3

I think divorcing is a better option for anyone.The reason for that is at least they weren't fighting all the time cuz of being unhappy nor cheating.I think also people change every 10 yrs physically n mentally.They have done the right thing n I think it's great n u should b happy but maybe they should wait a while b4 marrying divorce will happen again if this isn't really what they r sure they want.Maybe u can speak to them about it n mention that u think it would be better if they wait to marry n make sure that is what they want.Tell them it hurts YOU when they split up .Let them no u understand the love but why marry to get divorced 2 yrs later.Stay engaged for 2 yrs first n then marry b sure this is what u want n don't jump into it.There could be things that you don't know about for reason of the divorces.Try to be happy for them n just make suggestions for them out of concern.Good luck n hope it works out for u.I tell ya as a child n now n adult it wouldn't matter to me how many time my parents married n divorced I would only think of WOW my parents r back together n they haven't given up.Be happy there together cuz there r millions of people that would love to be in your shoes n see there parents together no matter what.Bye for now

Answer 4

Martin, your parents have quite a strange relationship. It is to bad you are along for the roller coaster, but what I am seeing here is a couple that is going through transformations and unfortunately seem to feel that getting a divorce is a good way to allow themselves to work through problems. I believe it would have been better for them to unofficially seperate and see what happens. This may have sheltered you from the in your face ups and downs of their relationship. I hope you know that none of this is your fault! Your parents also clearly do like eachother or they wouldn't keep trying. It is a lot of drama, but having them together when you have kids does come with benefits. I recommend that you distance yourself from the drama and not take this as a lesson on how normal relationships should be conducted. Be your own person, develop values and don't get married for a long time!

Answer 5

First of all, You got to let it all out and tell your parents that they are driving you crazy.



I believe that some people think on "marriage" like a new "company" that you "must" build and if it does not work there is always "bankruptcy". For me a relationship (marriage, friendship, work) is something that you have to "work" through your life and you can't give it up to the first "weak point" you find. Sometimes it just does not work and you need out.

I do not want to judge your parents, but it seems that they are happy with this type of relationship. Going on and off all the time. It may happen again it may not, but for them divorce is a way to scape to any "weak point" they find in their relationship. It sounds like that they wish something more but ... is better to stay with what you have than what you don't.

It will probably happen again because they are use to it. Maybe it won't happen again. But dude, talk to them. Maybe there is nothing you can do to "fix" it but at least you will take it all out of your system.

Answer 6

It sounds like you parents aren't being realistic. I could understand a second chance, but a third one? Unfortunately there isn't much you can do except tell them that if they want to remarry you hope it's for good because you don't have the strength to deal with a third divorce. Maybe it will make them consider things a little more carefully.

Answer 7

I can understand that it seems totally messed up that they keep going back to each other, but obviously there are still feelings between them, and well it is their lives, but what I'm sure they don't see is that every time this happens it hurts you. So my advice is to talk to the parent you are closest to, or feel more comfortable talking to, and tell them how you feel... the yo-yo relationship is just not working for you, and suggest they go get some serious counselling before getting married a third time.

Answer 8

The secretary in my Orthodontics office is going through the same thing with her ex. They're set to remarry in May. I see it as two people destined to be together. Eventually it'll stick. It doesn't really matter, they'll always be your parents.

Answer 9

well if ur parents decide to get divorce after they marry again u shld be all "this is the last time ur getting divorced and this is final! cuz i'm tired of all this drama." P.S. don't give ur age away on the internet

Answer 10

You are living in a soap opera. You have lousy role models for relationships (like most of us), so you are going to need to find out on your own how they are supposed to work.