My husband doesnt seem to be as excitited as me to be having a baby. He saysIt just hasnt him. He says its easier for me because I have him growing inside my body. But When I try to get him to feel him move he doesnt seem interested. I dont know if being preggo has something to do with it but I get very upset for him to say that... Anyone with similar expierence?
2007-03-23 03:22:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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You sound like me my first pregnancy. I was constantly naggin my husband, "Just feel it, feel it now, feel it now." I just wanted someone to share the excitement with me. You are perfectly normal. My husband didn't seem to have the same excitement and anticipation I had. I wasn't working during my first pregnancy and he was, and he was building our home in the evenings and on weekends trying to get us into it before the baby came. It was a crazy year..plus he had all the financial worries "how can we do all this during this year!?"
Don't worry, he's happy and excited, but I bet he has stresses and worries just like you. Just wait til the moment when that baby arrives into this world. Just look at his face then and see the tears and excitement and joy. It'll all be worth it then.
I'm pregnant now with #2(21 weeks), and he still doesn't seem too interested in feeling the baby either, he has felt some movement, which he seems to enjoy, but he doesn't wanna be constantly touching my belly like i want him too, hehe
I think we are just needy creatures(as they are too, sometimes), but we are extra needy while pregnant. Try not to be upset with him. Just understand that he may have a lot on his mind too. He may be worried about just as much as you are, but just chooses not to show it or worry u.
Pregnancy is an extremely emotional time. It's hard to keep everything straight and in order. My advice is to try not to expect too much from him, lol, then you won't get let down. Try waiting a few days before asking him to touch the belly. Or when he cuddles you at night and the baby is moving, just take his hand and hold it on the baby. I assure you he will love this and appreciate feeling his baby. Just do it gently at night and tell him how happy and excited you are. Ask him what he's thinking. He may want to talk about this. Having a baby is a huge responsibility. He may be having doubts"will i make a good dad? can we afford this? etc "
Good luck and congrats on the baby!
I'm sure everything will work out. You'll be fine. :)
2007-03-23 03:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly have had 5 toddlers. With my third I weighed 139 pre-preggo, in basic terms gained 17 lbs, my toddler became 7 lbs 12 oz, and that i weighed 136 lbs the day I had him. he's now exceptionally much 8 (B-day in Nov.) and weighs a hefty 70 lbs. i does no longer be too in contact if the docs are not. Is ur toddler a boy? I certainly have 4 boys and did no longer benefit better than 25 lbs with them yet with my daughter I gained 80 lbs, 20 lbs of it I gained in a month, and she or he became in basic terms 6lbs 14ounces. She's now 4, eats like a horse, and in basic terms weighs 28lbs on a similar time as my 2 year old weighs 40. None of my childrens are obese checklist says my boys are all muscle and extremely tall. My daughter in all risk won't get taller than 5'3 on a similar time as all my boys are envisioned to realize 6 ft tall. desire this eases ur concepts.
2016-10-01 09:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sara, I dont know why I dont show how excited I am as well as you. I just know what to think about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I am excited as all get out, and cant wait for our little baby boy to come into the world so I can play catch with him, teach him how to pee on the cheerio's, watch him take his first couple of steps and then fall like we all did. take of his training wheels, and asure him everyone falls the fist time, teach him how to shoot hoops, teach him the importance of money, so he will be better off then we are at our age. I am very excited Sara. I think I am just excited in a different way, and I agree with what all these nice people had to say.
I Love You Sara
Adam
2007-03-23 04:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go easy on your hubby, it's a totally different experience for him. He probably wonders what this is going to do to your marriage, sex life, attention to him, finances, concerns about his own ability to be a good dad,etc. See if you can get him to go with you to your ultrasound where he can see the baby move and hear it's heartbeat. That might make it more real for him. In the meantime, don't just focus on yourself and the baby all the time, which is easy to do when your pregnant especially the first time. Try to be nice and supportive to him during this time as well. He should come around eventually.
2007-03-23 03:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband acted the same exact way! even when i was in full labor. but as son as his head started coming out it was a whole other story! i still remember crying to my mom cause he wouldn't let me hold our baby! LOL now he is the best dad in the world. he's probably just scared and doesn't know what to expect yet. to be honest i don't even know why my husband acted like that when i was pregnant. it was very upsetting to me too. but don't worry too much i'm sure he'll be a great hubby and father when the time comes.
2007-03-23 03:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by missi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar expierence when i was around 26-27 weeks. I would always find myself talking about the baby and how much he kicks and I told my boyfriend how much I love the baby already and all he said was, "how do you know, he aint even out yet!?" Now I am 32 weeks and he told me he loves his son already and wants to feel him kick . Just give your husband time, he'll come around. Or it may just hit him when youre giving birth.
2007-03-23 03:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With our first my hubby was happy but not overly excited. When the baby came on the other hand... he wanted to run out of the room with her to show her off and I don't think I ever really got to hold her unless he was at work or she needed feeding (I nursed). He was and is a great dad. I know your hormones make you upset about it but I don't think it feels real to them. It will soon. Good luck
2007-03-23 03:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. When the baby comes he will be happy, proud, and excited about being a new father. I know, I was like that myself.
2007-03-23 03:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different husbands feel differently but most don't
feel the same as the wives..
2007-03-23 03:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
mines the same, i think hes a little freaked out by it all
2007-03-23 03:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋