Do all pregnant weman feel this way?

Question

I just feel ugly and unattractive. I know my husband loves me and he tells me all the time, but how do I tell if he doesn't like the way I look. I'm scared I can look or please him the way I did before I got pregnant and I just want to look my best for him. What do I do? What can I do?

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel. I got a glimpse of myself in a full length mirror the other day (something I've successfully avoided until now.) There they were in all their glory - my chubby, non-toned, cellulite-ridden thighs. Ugh!!! How could anyone possibly find me attractive with tree stumps as legs? Yes, I know I'm carrying a life and that shoudl be most important, but seriously, who isn't worried about how they look? I talked (okay, cried) to my husband about it and he was honest - yes, your thighs are not as toned as they once were, but it's okay. You'll get them back...it's only temporary. That made me feel a little better. I also started exercising more regularly. I dont' know if it will tone my legs again, but at least I feel good and better about myself while doing it.

I'm sure your husband still finds you attractive, and that you can still please him. Your best course of action is to discuss your worries and fears (all of which are perfectly normal). And stay away from full-length mirrors while undressed!

Answer 2

Lots of pregnant women feel this way. But try not to worry about it. You are not ugly or unattractive. You are beautiful. If your husband tells you that he loves you then just believe him. Lots of men are turned on by pregnant women. Some aren't, but you don't need to know that. If he says he finds you attractive then believe him. And don't worry, thing will get back to normal. And if your body is different after the baby, don't worry about that. If you look around you'll notice that most men don't look the same in their 30's as they did in their 20's. Women aren't the only ones whose bodies change.

Answer 3

I felt the same Wayy and i still have a hard time because my body has not gone back yet..but someone once told me.when i wa not pregnant women are always envy-is of pregnant women and can see there glow and beauty everyone can see it but u i am sure u are beautiful........its also a fact that men find a pregnant women more beautiful then ever,,,,,,,,remember tour husband married you because he loves u .thinks your beautiful and wants to have a family with you...........looking back i would have liked to enjoy my pregnancy a bit more really understand that there is life in you that your body is caring there is nothing more beautiful then that. some of the things physically I did was go to the mall get makeup makeovers buy nice maternity cloths blow out my hair take pictUres it really helps....you will forget all about it when you hold ur baby.I also prayed to God and that always made me feel better.

Answer 4

Being pregnant is the best time of motherhood, however because our bodies get so distorted and our hormones are all out of sync we tend to start having negative thoughts about our appearance. You are not going to be able to tell if your husband likes the way you look or not and personally is that really a bridge you want to cross? He loves you and the baby you are carrying, lots of men find pregnant women very attractive - it has been said we have a certian "glow" about us. What you need to do is relax and not worry about it and accept your husbands love and affection.

Answer 5

Yes, I feel the same, and at 38 weeks I'm pretty done feeling this way. My husband says he can look passed it because I'm pregnant... but inside I know that he's not as attracted to me as before. I can't really blame him though. I wouldn't be attracted to me either. But what I've learned is it's not so much about that. We are making a child together and that is so beautiful.

I get worred now that I will never look good again. My boobs got huge and stretch marks showed up... I can't imagine my stomach ever looking good again. And I'm in my early twenties and used to be petite and little before pregnancy... seeing other girls in their early twenties only makes me feel worse.

BUT, it is OUR insecurity, and our husbands, I am positive, love us regardless of our pregnant bellies. We are carrying their child! :o) What a beautiful thing!

Try to remember that life isn't always about us and what we look like, although the world and hollywood likes to make us think so. We are giving life to a person and they are going to rely on us for everything. We are mommy's!

I know it's hard, trust me. I still get insecure even after reminding myself what I just told you. But hopefully, we will feel confident in ourselves without having to have the perfect body, because I honestly wonder if I ever will look like I did before again....

I'm sure after the pregnancy weight goes away we'll feel better in the bed :)

Answer 6

I don't know about everyone, but I'm with ya! I know pregnant woment are supposed to "glow". I have acne, and have gained weight! Somedays I just feel aweful! Can't hardly sleep for having to pee all of the time, wake up looking like a baby bird! My eyes are sooo puffy! Of course my hubby tells me I'm beautiful, not fat.... just pregnant! Sometimes it helps, sometimes not! I find going to get a pedicure helps some (at least my feet look pretty!), and shopping for new clothes seems to make me feel better because I don't look like I'm popping out of them. Best wishes!

Answer 7

Usually I am always trying to look good and be sexy, not for my husband he always says I am but for me, I always imagined I would feel horrible about myself when pregnant because Im insecurre but now that I am pregnant I feel like I look better than I ever have, i get compliments on my hair and how healthy i look and Im not even showing, sure there are days when we are all gonna look beat but you have to do things like get your hair cut get your nails done, buy cute pregnant clothes, I like pregnant dresses I think theyre adorable. So feel good and blessed, by the way men are gonna look at women regardless but not any more or less because your pregnant. Goodluck!

Answer 8

I loved my pregnant body and my husband told me a lot how he loved it also. It was the few times in my life when it felt okay to weigh 200 pounds and not the 135 pounds I struggle to stay at all of the time.

Answer 9

I don't know if all pregnant women feel that way, but I sure did. I think you just have to accept it, and that it's not forever. Soon enough the baby will come and you will start to feel better. Do what you can to feel good...for me getting manicures and pedicures helped, massages too. It sucks but it's well worth it, and like I said, It's not forever.

Answer 10

as love is in the eye of the beholder, beauty is not! beauty is your own outlook towards the world. pregnant women are not considered as fat or ugly, its just a phase of life that you have to undergo and people understand that. infact people look upto pregnant women and do go out the way to help them too.
enjoy your days and wish you the best.