I work with low-class people and all they do is talk about me out loud, but in "codes" they understand, but I know it's about me, they also mock everything I do, and then laugh, it's harrasment every single day, They are not jealous of me, they are just angry at me that I stopped talking to them for "no reason" (I stopped because of they're messy ways) well I have already talked to the "boss" and she said she would have a "meeting" with the whole group to reiterate the rules of the company and of the "no tolerance" rule of harrassment, etc - I know it's a "mind" thing, to see whose mind is the strongest, but it's 6 against 1 - well anyway, this meeting has not happened yet, and now the whole situation has gotton worse.. I am going to asked to be moved...what is your opinions? thank you in advance - I HATE CONFRONTATIONS! (I know I'm a coward to a certain extint, but I just don't think bickering is the answer, I want to go about this in a "classy" way
2007-03-23 03:13:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your situatuion is very familiar to many people. You have to remove yourself from that situation. Your "boss" isn't going to help you. They don't care about you, they care about their job. Human Resources doesn't exise for the people who work there, they are there to protect the company. What the six are doing, is making you look like the one that is the instigator. They are making you look like the problem. Just like when one kid in school pulls a girl's hair, she truns and says "ouch", the teacher will scod her for talking, not the boy that pulled her hair. Get out of there, move to a different department, or if you haven't already, look for a job somewhere else, cause it won't get better where you're at. Best of luck to you, and I hope you find a better cultured company and classy people to work with. Stay strong, and hopefully you will be motivated enough to get exactly what you are looking for where you can acutally get it, some respect!
2007-03-23 03:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to the next person in line above your boss. Let them know the situation what has been said about it by your boss, and that nothing has been done yet. Keep going over heads until something happens. Asking to be moved to another department is not a bad idea but in a way is cowering. Just keep your head up, be better then them, and if you don't see results from your employer maybe it's time to look for another job. GL!
2007-03-23 10:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by catmomiam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had these situations at a few of my jobs also. It is really hard to ignore these people considering they all gang up on you. It is important to understand though, that not everybody will like you. You could be the nicest sweetest coolest person, but people will find something they don't like about you. Maybe they think you are stuck up for not talking to them anymore. I sometimes don't get along with someone and then later on we get along. I would be pleasant, say hi and do not talk behind their backs. Then they will realize you are not such a bad person, you just do your own thing. If they do still pester you, then they are immature and then I would talk to the boss again. I hate confrontations too, but I hate awkwardness even more. I would make an effort to try and get along with them. I think these sound like the type of people who would lie about you to try and get you fired. Good luck!
2007-03-23 11:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, you are Not a coward! It's normal to not want to confront or approach a group of individuals that are harassing you or making you feel uncomfortable. And it is totally unacceptable to behave how they are behaving. If you have the opportunity to be moved to another department and you really enjoy working for the company otherwise, perhaps you should take them up on their offer to transfer you which is in a way, 'cutting one's losses'. Even if or when the meeting occurs, between you, me and the wall, I don't know how much of a turn-around in attitude will occur if this is their character, know what I mean.
2007-03-23 10:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by jannsody 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss that you deperately need that meeting to happen because the situation is getting worse. If he does nothing about it then I would contact some one higher up in the company. It sounds like you are in a horrible situation...I feel for you! Good Luck
2007-03-23 10:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you have went about it in a classy way so far and I would just ask to be moved. If it's 6 to 1 you can never win an argument anyway so be best just to not stoop to their level of ignorance.
2007-03-23 10:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by luminous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losers! That's what you should say! Works every time, no-one likes to be called a loser, makes them think! Keep your head up! Is there anyone there who is on your side? Buddy up w/ them!
2007-03-23 10:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by crazycatlady4real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the only thing that is legally viable (i think) is set them up to get caught in the act. i do it all the time (i think their all afraid of me now). of course i have the IQ of a vulcan
2007-03-23 10:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started off by saying "I work with low-class people" Maybe you treat them just like that and they don't like it !
2007-03-23 10:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by BRAB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't give them attention!Chill!U'll be fine!
2007-03-23 10:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋