2007-03-23 03:09:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Grab life and the new marriage with both hands!!!! Try not to let the crap from your first marriage get in the way of this new one. Enjoy learning about your new partner!! Be yourself!!
2007-03-23 03:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugg0224 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read other people's advice and think many are right.
Think real hard about what made your first marriage fail. Ask your partner to do the same. Then, take time to talk things over, be honest and brave....Try to learn from the heartache you both had before and if you are willing to make a commitment and really work harder this time, then you have another chance at being happy.
But don't jump into another marriage for the wrong reasons....
We cannot give what we do not have. Good luck!
2007-03-23 03:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very happy in my second marriage. My advice is for both of you to go into it with an "I'm not going to put up with any crap this time attitude" you both have learned from your first marriage what you don't want again, I assume you have both been upfront with each other about who you are and what you want out of life. So no one expects anyone to change. Go into this marriage with more of a partners in life willing to work really really hard to make our goals and dreams come true. The Love is there , but you already learned love isn't enough, be prepared to work hard to get what you want , and think how nice it is to have this special person working as hard as you, with you so you can both achieve it.
2007-03-23 03:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by EGOman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that he/she has a life with activities that do not have to include you. Give some space when needed and trust.
If there are children, remember that they are not as happy about this whole thing as you are. They must find their place/purpose in this new home. I wish I'd realized that when I re-married. Both of us had full custody of our children and not having grown up in or around blended families, I did not understand how the family dynamic changes. We all get along great now, but things could have been a lot better a lot sooner!
Love your spouse, unconditionally. You have both been given a second chance to have that special relationship usually only found once in a lifetime.
2007-03-23 03:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by karat4top 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk about why your first marriages failed. That way both of you have an idea on what will make a successful marriage for both of you.
If you say my spouse was never home and wanted to go out all the time, than you new spouse will know that you want time aside for the 2 of you every day. You get the idea I bet. It is all about open communication.
Talk about what you want from this marriage and what your personal goals are for the next phase in your life.Make sure everyone is in agreeance on the paths of your lives together.
Congradulations and good luck
2007-03-23 03:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by puggylover 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that.... how many kids are there from each parent? That will be the biggest challenge for each of you! I had six, he had two.... we had 0... We still have my two youngest at home now and things are starting to get better after nearly 8 years now... but there are always going to be some problems with 2nd marriages... you just have to be more willing to make it work this time! Alot of communication and sacrifice... also make sure you really do have something in common besides the physical attraction! Good luck kids!
2007-03-23 03:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre marital counseling is greatly beneficial. I am getting remarried and it has been an eye opener. A counselor helps bring issues to light that you may not realize are issues until you seek help. It will allow you to both make sure you are on the same page with lifestyle, money, kids, property, etc.. as well as give you tools to deal with issues when they do come up. Obviously as you know issues come up in marriage. How we deal with them determines how the marriage ends up. Congratulations and Good luck!
2007-03-23 03:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
persist with your heart and if he's asserting all that and you prefer the comparable then decide for it. 5 years isn't a protracted time yet while neither of you're over the different then you definately've a solid hazard. Get counseling first one on one and then jointly. I wish I had the prospect!! Ex cheated on me jointly 18 years and he or she needs friendship and that i prefer all of it or not something or a minimum of instruct the comparable objective. She divorced me and that i think she regrets it yet some human beings do not prefer to lose their ego. as some distance because of the fact the different guy? Wow back persist with your heart your youthful. wish I helped ya!!
2016-10-19 10:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it as intimate and personal as possible. Me and my husband it was both our second marriage, we wrote our own vows, chose all our own music, and we did everything together, it was sweet and romantic, we invited our children and immediate family about 70 people, it was awesome, he wrote the most precious vows to me, I get goose bumps just thinking about it. Enjoy it, that is the most important part, celebrate finding love again, as many never find true love, not even once. Congratulations.
2007-03-23 03:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did both of you forget how much it cost to get out of the first? Skip the idealism and be honest from the start and keep it real. You already know that it doesn't last forever unless you work at it.
2007-03-23 03:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋