we have been together a year and a half and we now have an 11 week ols baby,and we're getting married, but he doesn't seem to enjoy making love to me as much. it's always the same old routine lately. i'm out of ideas!
2007-03-23 03:04:15 · 19 answers · asked by cassie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Plan an adventure. Pick a theme and cook up or buy some food to go with the theme.
Plan a luau on your patio or inside your house. Get a Kidd pool and fill it with water to represent the ocean if you can do it on the patio. If not, buy a poster of Hawaii with a nice tropical scene. Break out the lawn chairs and set them up. Get him a Hawaiian shirt and buy a couple of leis...you should just wear a bikini top and a grass skirt with a flower in your hair. Make some drinks with rum, pineapple juice, and splash of grenadine with little umbrellas in them. Serve up some ribs and fresh pineapple. Do a little Hawaiian dance for him...seduce him all the way. It doesn't get any sexier than that.
2007-03-23 03:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you gotten rid of the baby weight? maybe that's your answer, lose some weight and buy some sexy costumes (if he's into that) or go into the kitchen and do some "cooking" maybe you can get another bun in the oven.
Anyway, it's been a noticible coincidence that when women have children, the husband starts to move away a bit. Seeing a woman pregnant or give birth is very disconcerting to a man since it seems unnatural to them (even though the whole thing is natural!) since he's seeing a baby pop out of your vage. I'd wait a little and see if he comes around. If not, there are always books on this stuff at Barnes & Nobles...and, well, you know... toys
2007-03-23 03:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Emiline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples, no matter how committed they are to each other, no matter how much they love each other, can often find themselves minding a gap -- especially in the intimacy department.
In order to stay close emotionally and physically, you have to make a conscious effort to share your thoughts, feelings, and random experiences. You might feel too tired to utter the words, but try. You will feel an instant sense of relief and rapport. If both of you are sharing in this way, you will feel more in synch. The love between you will feel more concrete, rather than an abstract idea floating in the background of your minds, and relationship. Intimacy needs to be nurtured for it to be sustained, so next time you feel yourself minding the gap, make a decision to close it.
When you and your significant other work out or exercise together, you accomplish three things at once -- you do something healthy for your minds and bodies, you spend time together, and you warm up your bodies for . . . other activities. Am I making myself clear?
I'll try again:
Exercise increases endorphins -- feel-good body chemicals - that will increase the likelihood that you want toget, and stay, physical with your partner.
One of the many things I learned from Sex Educator and Bestselling Author, Lou Paget, was that the skin is our largest sex organ. When it becomes slippery, warm, and wet, it also becomes an erogenous zone -- quickly.
When you build a sweat and warm your muscles, you are pumping blood to your sexual organs, as well. These organs need blood flow for arousal, stimulation, and ultimately orgasm.
And finally, and most simply, when your bodies are warmed up and you are in close proximity to each other, you are more likely to get physical!
So the next time an opportunity arises for you and your partner, mate or spouse to work out, make it happen . . . you may triply pleased at the results!
2007-03-23 03:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by SuperDave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a sitter or get a family member to keep the baby. Send him an invitation to meet you somewhere for a fantasy date. Have dinner, flirt, be suggestive, and then go to a hotel and knock his socks off. Guys are very visual, so style your hair differently, use some perfume, try new positions, or have him tell or write out his sexual fantasy and try and provide it!
If you can't go off, put the baby to bed, and then your man. Blindfold him and tell him he can't touch you no matter how much he wants to until you tell him to. Then kiss and tease him until he is panting for you!!! Good luck!
2007-03-23 03:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty typical really. Make sure you efort to take the weight off. Plus the baby is like dropping a bomb on your routine. Talk to him about establishing a time for intimacy. Set up a date night so you can anticipate being together in that way.
2007-03-23 03:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what normally happens. What you need is to spice up your general life first and then intimacy. Try new things together, you can try out doing cooking, going for party in outdoors, or any other such activiy that you can do and like (both of you). Once you re-energize your life and relationship, then you can get back to sex life. You can learn and try new positions, new acts, or even fetishes. Hope it can revitalize your life.
2007-03-23 03:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by its m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making some of his fantasies come to life. Find out what he likes and really LISTEN. Ask him about ways he'd like to try or if he's not very vocal about how he feels try watching an adult movie together and see what he responds to. Then you can incorporate your own creativity and revive your sex life. Also... you may want to find a good babysitter!
2007-03-23 03:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by RealTruth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well everyone seems to be telling you to lose weight...they must don't have any kids!! it takes time to lose that baby fat but with time it eases off...in the mean time i agree with some of the others put the baby to bed or try to find a family member who will keep the baby for a few hrs. and romance your man!
2007-03-23 03:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by va757 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, me and mine have a dress up night! We like to get a bottle of our favorite liquor or wine, and dress up, me in lingerie, him in sexy things as well and sometimes we'll get a good flick to go with it all and we'll role play. Sometimes I'm his naughty little secretary.........etc. I just think you guys need to reconnect. Make some time for yourselves and spice it up a little bit. It works wonders. Dress up and tell him you have been a bad girl and tell him you need a spanking!!!! If that doesn't work, send him to the morgue!!! He's a goner!!!! Good luck!
2007-03-23 03:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by kathy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a nice love boutique, they have many books and or games. whatever you choose ask the employees they probably have some very interesting ideas.
2007-03-23 03:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Stewart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋