there are so many different types of jealousy! the jealousy i am talking about is..jealousy of attension,love or affection that someone else gets that you want from the person you care about or like ...why is that?
2007-03-23 03:03:01 · 18 answers · asked by itsalltasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Because when we love someone, (as a human beings that we are), we want always to be the first thing for him (or her), we want to be on the top of the list ... and that´s something we don´t like to negotiate never!!! so I understand your feeling!
2007-03-23 03:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by staytrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a person feels pushed aside like your parents will show your sister or brother more attention because they hunt for attention. Some of us who are quiet and sit back do not get that much attention because we do not push for it. That is why they get more attention. If it is the case of boyfriend and girlfriend, sometimes you get bored with each other and he will find something interesting about another girl, not that he fancy's her , just that she is talking about something he is interested in like jogging etc. The feeling you get then is jealousy because you want him to talk to you the same way. Make sure you read up on what he is interested in so you can talk with him ok. Anyway, not to worry we all have the little devil sitting on our shoulders some time or other. Good luck to you ok.:))
2007-03-23 10:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was an article in Time recently that said most primatologists agree that most human social behavior is instinctive and not a product of culture. We have pecking-orders and rivalries just like our cousins the chimps.
It doesn't make sense, but we're kind of hard-wired for jealousy. It makes us work hard for what we want.
2007-03-23 10:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be the fact that you may have something missing in your life that makes you feel that way towards others when they have something which you desire or quite simply can't have. You mention "person". Do yo have feelings for this person which cannot be said to them? Or is it just a feeling of lust or a "crush"? Either way, some things we can control, some we have no contol over, thus we get envious, angry, jealous....
good luck hun
2007-03-23 12:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We as humans, are inherantly self centered. It's all about the self. I don't think we can help it...it's in our basic genetic coding as homosapiens.
I think I've watched enough Mutual of Omaha's ":Wild Kingdom": and enough Discovery Channel documentaries to know that jealousy and competition exist naturally in nature. Lions fight over their kills...even domesticated animals will growl--even snap if another animal (or human) dares to approach or get close to its food bowl while eating.
As humans, we're territorial, too. We're possessive and we claim what we think is ours emotionally. I've often felt that gnawing pang of jealousy when I saw my ex flirting with opther women and they flirted back. He was a commercial airline captain so that means I was jealous ALL the damn time!!!
But that's another story...
We want what's ours. Love...REAL love, comes so infrequently in our lives that I think we tend to cling to relationships. After years of introspection and therapy, I've also learned that most of the time, the jealousy I felt was my problem. I wasn't always feeling so good about myself. And when I was having trouble coping with me, my actions, my feelings--when I wasn't feeling "quite good enough", jealousy, often took over. It was my insecurities further hammering the point home that I wasn't worthy...just one big loser. I had to get control of that.
As I got healthier emotionally, jealousy stopped rising to the forefront of every situation. The pilot had mercifully left my life, but in sunsequent relationships I learned that sometimes the guy I was involved with was simply having an innocent conversation with another woman. She posed no threat to me, or our relationship, but I had to come to terms with ME and my issues in order to get to that point.
2007-03-23 10:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is just human nature to feel jealousy, and those who say they are never jealous, are either lying, or they have been hurt very badly before and just dont care anymore.
2007-03-23 10:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahaaaaaa
2007-03-23 11:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.selfknowledge.com/51802.htm
4. Disposed to suspect rivalry in matters of interest and affection; apprehensive regarding the motives of possible rivals, or the fidelity of friends; distrustful; having morbid fear of rivalry in love or preference given to another; painfully suspicious of the faithfulness of husband, wife, or lover.
also...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy
this is a good one..
http://www.jealousnomore.com/
2007-03-23 10:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by simon07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only natural to want what you don't have. when you see someone happy with the affection they get from someone else, you want that happiness too; it looks good on them, especially when it comes from someone YOU want. people want to be happy with someone they really care about. that's why you get jealous when you see this.
2007-03-23 10:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by alice_aires 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is linked to our mood and different kind of jealousy arises from our moods.. simple
2007-03-23 10:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋