Who else is??? I get along with him, but it's just boring. It's driving me crazy.
2007-03-23 03:02:09 · 30 answers · asked by SOM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HI
I go through this too, I just try and do something for me, tan, paint, photography and if he is willing get out and do something together it will stregnthen your bond.
Lammy
2007-03-23 03:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Clammy S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I am married to a military man who has been gone since last june 2006 and not expected to be back until Fall 2008. I work etc but man am I sick of the same old crap. They say it is normal to get bored in marriage but there comes a time that you are just sick of it. It is though we dont even have anything in common anymore and when we did see eachother for a few weeks at x-mas I was glad to see him but part of me felt like my brother was visiting. I think this is the reason why there is such a high divorce rate in the military. That and the fact that boredom and distance brings affairs.
2007-03-26 15:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by bookgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we never hear about this issue when we're in our 20s and thinking about getting married. Do we choose to ignore it. Everyone get bored, don't let em lie. I've been reading about it a bit, I googled 7 year itch (started as a joke because of the movie) It's a real issue. I read that attraction is caused by a release of chemicals in the body. They are only effective for the first few years, then....
Theres a lot of new complications in affairs and they may leave you feeling empty or you could get caught.
so to answer your question, we are all bored in marriage after a couple years. Some people are boring enough not to notice.
2007-03-23 03:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by handy G 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been married?
And what makes it so boring, do you two not go anywhere together anymore? I would suggest creating a date night (this is way easier if you don't have kids). Pick a date every week or ever two weeks and go and do something different. It does not have to be fancy or expensive, just something that is exciting, relaxing, and enjoyable.
Have you shared your feelings with your husband? Believe me when I say that men are terrible at reading their spouse's mind. Ask him if he feels the same way and let him know that a happy marriage is important to you as it should be to him as well.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 03:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by ericka1031 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your man and express the need to explore things. Go out and find each other. You could end up wishing that you never let him go otherwise. Why did you marry him. Find out what is different now!
It takes two in a marriage so, he may be just as bored wishing he had a lively partner. Good luck!
Work it out, Go have sex in your driveway some night. Do some role playing if you have to.
2007-03-23 03:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by safetyusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What attracted you two in the first place? Do you make a point to "date" still? Try spicing things up with doing something spontaneous with him. Try to find what might rekindle those feelings you had in the beginning and see if you can spice up a boring marriage. Sometimes we all get in a rut, just shake it up some!
2007-03-23 03:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a date night once a week and do something exciting that you normally wouldn't do. Plus go out with the girls. Friends always have a way of making you feel better. Just don't give up on the marriage or cheat. It's not worth it.
2007-03-23 03:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle Moy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage you have to work at it to keep it fun and new. for last 4 of are 9 year together we have start doing fun little thing like leaving note all over the house or in a lunch box's. the other day i went to the save-on and pick up a new color o nail palish for he she thought that was so cool that i did that. so what i trying to say is make your marriage fun don't just think its all sun shine and rose you have to do the work to keep it alive. Good Luck
2007-03-23 03:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at your image, how long have you been married - 2 or 3 years? Yeah *that's* an eternity.
Wow.
Take a few minutes and imagine what he feels about YOU.
Only stupid, boring people get bored.
Despite what you have come to expect, we're not all put here on the planet to keep you entertained, your royal highness.
Work on how much you GIVE to the relationship, instead of sitting back feeling entitled to GETTING MORE out of it. Didn't someone teach you all this in kindergarten?
2007-03-23 03:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not me!
I've been married for nine wonderful months and plan on years of happiness with her. We do get into a routine, but we break it by just up and doing something new, whether trying a new cuisine (try Ethyopian, surprisingly good) or going out and seeing a ball game (we're going to the Astro's season opener on April 2nd). We also do "date night" once or twice a month, depending on schedule.
In addition, find a hobby you can do without him. My bride has bellydancing (I'm her biggest fan, but I don't try it myself) and mine is novel writing.
You can make your lives about each other but still leave time for yourselves.
2007-03-23 03:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your bored, spice things up. Do some new things, see new places. You have to work at keeping a marriage interesting, its too easy to slip into a routine.
2007-03-23 03:10:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋