i get annoyed with people really easily, one day i will like them?

Question

and the next day i wont.
I think i let people take advantage over me, i try and say the right thing to them all the time, try and help people, im kinda awkward. But then i get sick of people an get really mad(and tell other people, how much they annoy me) i know this is a horrible quality, what to do????

Answer 1

Hey! we all have a hard time with people, some more than others. You're right though it does tend to sound like a terrible attribute to have but it should be able to be fixed.

1. Maybe you are overly friendly at first. They'll respond accordingly but the next day you're back being normal and they're still dealing with the other guy. Frustration - loud and clear

2. It is hard not to get mad when people are annoying you.
However, you have to control your vocal outbursts - it's too anti - social a behavior to perpetuate. So, do it simply.
Excuse me,..walk into the other room,,,yell, punch a pillow,
just get rid of that pent up hostility. Then sit down calmly for
three minutes. Think about something else - totally. When you've calm down sufficiently then you can return. (Take your pulse..if it is over 70 you're not ready yet)

3.Re think your statement....people take advantage over me.
How? Why? This is yours to control...If you're saying whatever they want to hear in some 1/2 baked theory you're trying to be nice and help them. Wrong. It's over. You can still be friendly,,,still be helpful but not to everyone ..not all the time. So, take a breath and listen to them. Tell them to give you some time to digest what they have to say and you'll get back to them later on that. Then, put it away and continue being social but making no promises.

4. When you are buy yourself you can think about those things. You'll find adding distance and time helps in the decision making proccess.

5. Smile, ask a simple question or two, keep it light and don't promise anything....That should be your mantra.

Good luck with your anger management.

Answer 2

This is a good question. To answer it is relatively simple. You are probably the kind of person that puts others in front of you. Meaning that you will help them before fulfilling a plan that you have for yourself. You switch priorities around. As a result, you are set back, so to speak and fall behind in your plans. This makes you angry, more at yourself, than at other people. But the anguish comes through. My advice, don't worry about it. Any intelligent person knows that all of us have bad days. When you are really angry and cannot control your temper, take a break from people. Take a walk through a park or along a shoreline where it is peaceful. This will help in controlling anger.

Answer 3

Well it seems,they are taking advantage of yours.
But I think,you should be friendly with everyone,but must learn to say no.
I think you get annoyed,when people start coming to you for help.OK fine,you have helped them,but then when they come to you again and again,it annoys you.

So I think,you should start saying "no"
try making better friends and move around with them,basically help if you want to and if you really care to,but otherwise just leave it,when you start doing this,others will start realizing thatthay should not ask you,so they will come lesser to you,with their problems,this will help you in not getting irritated fast.
And start moving Bindaas,like "I would have helped you,but it seems there is nothing I can do".I mean you have to stop acting as if you are their doctor or helper.Just help,if you think you relly ought to help and if it is worthy.

This will give you your own space,a bindaas attitude,and also please do not tell it to other peoplejust for the sake of sharing,unless your friends,bcause it might create a bad impression

Answer 4

Stop doing it! By always trying to say the right thing, you are trying to be something you arent. BE YOURSELF! If you can be yourself, and your friends still like you, then you've got great friends. If you have to sit there and think about what to say or how to say it, then you arent being yourself. IT seems like you are pretty young still... so let me give you some advice. Always be yourself, always put yourself FIRST(at least while you are young) and dont worry so much about what other people think. Once you are out of high school... those people NO LONGER MATTER, and their opinions NO LONGER MATTER. Good luck

Answer 5

Hmm. Could be a lot of things. Sounds like you have a problem with yourself. It's either you are controlling, in that you have certain expectations of how things should be and you project that onto everyone else only to be dissappointted when they don't follow those expectations; or, you're not happy with your ownself-or you could just be selfish and egotistical. Just do your own thing and be self-sufficient. Don't rely on them and don't worry about what they are or what they aren't. If you do your own thing and become comfortable with yourself why care about how others are?

Answer 6

Nobody likes being the bad guy. But, youre not being a bad guy if you tell someone they have hurt your feelings or to just leave you alone. Practice standing up for yourself, it'll get easier and you'll soon learn that you have a right to speak your mind...as long as youre not hurting anyone. Telling someone "no, I cant do that for you right now" is not going to hurt them.

dr. seuss said it best. "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind."
Good luck. Youre so normal and not horrible at all.

Answer 7

First of all, dont put yourself in the position that you let them take advantage of you. Stop trying to please everyone, because by doing so, you set yourself up. It's perfectly fine to tell someone no, you do not want to do something. I think the reason you get so annoyed most of the time is because your angry with yourself. Dont set yourself up for failure and remember no matter how hard you try you can not please everyone all the time.

Answer 8

You sound like you've been hurt badly before and you're very suspicious of people's actions. There are a lot of good people out there, you just have to find them. Find out what qualities annoy you. You might subconsciously be seeing yourself in them and fighting it.

Answer 9

Stop letting them take advantage of you. Seriously, just be yourself, and don't act how you think others want you to. It's the best way to go.

Answer 10

You get annoyed because you are too intelligent for them, honestly! Once you realize this fact, it will be easier to deal w/ them, try it!