if we love someone who has hurt us and they have realised what they have done after some time, and we still have feelings for them.should you go back with them? should you risk being hurt again and go back with them? or should you never look back and carry on with your life even though you are not as happy as you were when you were with them? but from this there is the risk of...should i have gone back? he might have ment what he said and is truely sorry? it could have been diferent this time? no matter what descision you make there will always be questions!
2007-03-23 02:56:31 · 25 answers · asked by itsalltasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do know that if you don't go back and try again you'll never know! And you may be passing up the best thing that ever happened to you. That's the same thing I'm going thru right now. I just gave my ex a second chance, except this time I'm taking things a lot slower. But, Sweety, you'll never know if you don't atleast try! Good Luck! And I hope it works out well for you!!!
2007-03-23 03:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by kathy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that the person you love took a decision to hurt you for one reason or another, whether that decision was on impulse or planned its the same. There must be a reason why they made the decision to do what they done so there must have been a moment when the other person did not see the relationship in the same way you did. He may be sorry now for what he done and want to get it all back but if you go back you also go back to what he thought was not good (even for a very short time). You know life deals some very difficult lessons but that's what they are, lessons. if You learn nothing from it you are not living your life for you but for others. He probably is very sorry and means every word that he says now but its not about him now its about you and how you want your life to be. Take yourself out of the situation and think about what you would advise others. We all deserve a good life so that's my wish for you! good luck.
2007-03-23 03:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by P B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered you own question.... "no matter what decision you make there will always be questions!"
But you will never know if you don't try. I wouldn't jump back into a relationship with both feet straight away though. Spend time together and TALK... communication is important. Try to work through the problem and find out ways to prevent it from happening again. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-23 03:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Chevy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Milk that was spoiled when you took it out of the fridge this morning will still be spoiled six months from now. A relationship that you got out of six months ago is not going to smell so sweet if you get back together. What spoiled it in the first place still exist. Why don't you have enough self respect to move on? Questions if you don't take him back will not be near so many as if you take him back. The first of course will be, "What the sam hell was I thinking?"
2007-03-23 03:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why go back when there is so much ahead?
if you want some answers, then go back ONLY with the intentions of getting answers in a subtle way and then head into the future..leave him in the dust this time with no explaination....
oh,btw, i'm sorry,.... now does that really mean anything to you from me or or anyone that has hurt you and is not open and honest with you from the start?
also, you can love someone till it kills you, but you never have to see them, talk to them, live with them, marry them or any of that..make sense?
Love is an unconditional emotion that requires no physical presense ever...I know from experience,bcI have lost everyone who has ever mattered to me, my life and my heartby way of them just leaving, dying and every way you can possibly imagine prob
2007-03-23 03:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by simon07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely consider it. You have to take into account what has been done.
You can learn to get over things. This avoids them being raised in the future. If They apologoise and you believe and forgive them it will help.
You do not want to get twenty years down the road and the problem to be bought back as something to be used against them.
Forgive and move forward.
2007-03-23 03:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone back before. But, as the saying goes, "it's better to have loved and lost then never have loved at all". But if they mess up again, you need to leave and never look back because if they can't respect you enough to stop, then the feelings are obviously not mutual.
2007-03-23 03:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by shere143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have what if's. I think it depends on what that person did to hurt you, but if it was something minor, then you have to decide if the risk is worth the pain or the reward that would come from taking this person back or moving on. If it was something major, such as cheating or physical pain move on.
2007-03-23 03:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty I don't think it ever works if you get back together, the reasons why you split will always be there and will probably rear their heads again unless you and he are capable of not holding on to negative feelings about the past.
Also bare in mind what ever has happened has happened and if you do get back together whats to stop it happening again as you forgave once?
2007-03-23 03:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and i've gone back bcoz i've naively thought it would be the same as it was before.....it won't. The reality is your memories that you have are just that, memories.
Move on and find someone that will make sure they never hurt you babes x x x
2007-03-23 03:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋