2007-03-23 02:47:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He probably cares about you but if his flirting bothers you and he won't quit, you might consider dumping him. Anyone who continues with a hurtful behavior that you cannot accept and he cannot stop will probably just bring you more pain.
2007-03-23 02:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do in this situation is try talking to him. It obviously bothers you that he is a "flirt", but he might not see it that way. Most guys just consider it being friendly. Bottom line... you need to tell him what actions are upsetting you. And be specific because just saying "I don't like it when you flirt with other girls" isn't going to help. You have do give him your definition of flirt and tell him exactly what bothers you. If he cares about you like he says, he will make the effort to change his behavior.
2007-03-23 02:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by RealTruth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you ask him to stop flirting, or explain to him how you feel, he may not fully understand because he doesn't see anything wrong with it and will continue the same behavior because it comes naturally to him...in which case you two are just too different in ways that are important to sustain a healthy relationship. If he really does understand and was only just getting 'carried away' or was trying to make you jealous or something, that's different. Someone who naturally flirts all the time probably just isn't going to stop. It's part of his personality.
Of course I do suggest talking to him about it and seeing what comes of it. But if he continues to flirt and hurt your feelings, I would get out of that situation. You'll find someone else who will care about you greatly and be able to show you as well. I was in a relationship with a guy who did the same sorta stuff - no matter how much we 'talked' about it and how much he said he understood, he continued...but I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and it ended up with him cheating on me and physically abusing me, among other things. I realized it was because it was part of who he was, whether it was related to his 'issues' or not...it was part of who he had become.
Whatever may happen, just remember that you shouldn't 'settle' for one person. You can eventually find someone who'll reciprocate your feelings.
2007-03-23 03:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't catch a fish if you don't have your hook in the water. Flirting is having you hook in the water. Why would a person have a hook in the water if they didn't want to catch another fish?
2007-03-23 03:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether you two had sex or not. If you haven't, then he's saying that to get laid. If you have, that means he's bored, and wants someone else to f***.
2007-03-23 02:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋