triggers for rage?

Question

ive bin recentley diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and for 16 years since 16 ive suffered with inner rage and rage attacks. im now 29. ive suffered alot of suffering and trauma in my life, victimisation and abuse,ive repressed anger alot in my life, i think this where the rage comes from. im waiting for therapy, not sure when itll be though.
problem is for two years ive lived in my own flat, and around me live lots of ' hoodies' . there noisy, drive motrbikes recklassly. they shout. go around in groups. and although their not threatening me directly, i still feel threatened by them. im worried so much about my rage attacks and anxiety that ive socially isolated myself, because im worried about losing control. i have in the past outside, if ive missed percieved threats, and its got me into trouble. for example if i think a person, another males looking at me or stare at me, ill not no how to handle it. feel the urge to stare back. then ive lost control of my rage.

im worried about how to deal with
the hoodies that live around me.
they make me nervous and scared
and when i realise their making
me feel like this,it puts me into
another rage. i dont wanna feel
threatened by them. i wanna feel
in control.confident like a 29
year old guy should be. not frightened
to go outside because their there.
ultimatly my ultimate goal is to
emmegrate from manchester uk. but
i realise thats going to take me
a long time, which depresses me
terribly. because i have to go
through therapy before i can even
concentrate on a life, employment
friends a social life, a girlfriend.
does anyone no how to deal with hoodies
and their activities? and what to do if
you feel another guy is looking or staring
at you? im a 29 year old male

Answer 1

Have you purchased that inflatable doll yet?

Answer 2

One thing which is believed to help is catharsis, or "letting it out". I don't suggest that you take this to the extreme, but it definitely does help to cool off in situations where you feel yourself getting tense. This can be done in so many ways that you're bound to find one that suits you - you can do something as simple as talk about it, take your aggression out on a game/sport, e.g. computer game or tennis, boxing etc or some kind of exercise, or just punch a pillow!! The important thing is that you do not allow this 'release' to continue for too long - after a few minutes of pounding your pillow or ranting to a friend, distract yourself (with something pleasant, e.g. a meal, magazine, dvd, shopping, something you enjoy and won't make you tense). This distraction means prevents the negative thoughts and emotions experienced during your 'release' from recurring, thus you feel calmer. I really hope this helps.

Answer 3

You need to get out'a Dodge.

Don't you have family you can turn to for refuge until you get your emotional issues in control.

Maybe you had a falling out and left without a return ticket but did you know you would end up where you are now?

Man swallow your pride. Admit your actions didn't take you where you wanted and go back.

If you don't have family find someone that can help. Even a policeman, or Copper, if I'm not mistaken, would rather find help for you now than deal with you later as a client.

If you're seriously asking for help, you've made the first step. Now take the second, get out of there seek real help.

Answer 4

me too i fight for the fun of it . i go to clubs just to start fights i have only been beat 4 times out of 60. thats the only way i can release the rage nothing else works and i have tried. maybe it will subside when i get older im 28. good luck by the way do not use a weapon if you lose control i never have you will get in serious trouble

Answer 5

We all have to endure 'hoodies', just keep out of their way and ignore them. I cant see how the 'hoodies' have caused you to develop a borderline personality disorder.
If somebody stares at you in the street, so what! Ignore it.
Everybody suffers from some form of trauma, victimisation and abuse at some point in there life. I think you need to go to anger management classes.

Answer 6

Don't really have an answer. Just reaching out. Glad that you are getting therapy.
I understand being afraid of your neighbors,and then being so mad because you don't have control of the situation.
Maybe the guys staring @ you are looking at something behind you? Or maybe you remind them of someone else?
Good luck to you.

Answer 7

be on your best behavior it takes time to deal with your self if you can,t control your anger find ways to vent your anger in good ways like excersise , people can listen to you and give you good advice on a spirtual level talk to GOD who is the author and finisher of the both worlds john 3:16