Straight up mean. Always yelling at me her daughter and our 2 yr old like she is in a bar fight. We have no relationship. She is not interested. She won't leave, she won't change. 43 and no bedroom time. Help
2007-03-23 02:28:01 · 14 answers · asked by invisible 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This woman has control issues. She's like a playground bully who is daring you to challenge her. You need to stop allowing this behavior. Speak to your wife about this issue once again. Only this time, tell her that you want her to stop yelling at you and the children. Also tell her that you are not happy with your present sex life. Be straight forward and don't let her bully you out of expressing your feelings. Understand that the worse that can happen is that the two of you will breakup. Clearly, this is what you're afraid of; but you can't continue to live in fear. You've got to stand up for yourself, and for the children who cannot defend themselves against this woman.
After you've spoken to your wife, give her an opportunity to work on herself. If you don't begin to see an improvement, both in her behavior and in the bedroom, start making plans to leave. I know this sounds harsh, but you are dealing with an insecure woman who will only change if she's forced to. Letting her know that you will no longer accept her abusive behavior is the first step toward stopping it. I wish you well.
2007-03-23 03:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you are coming from. I was in a relationship with someone who was very cold and cruel. It is a tough situation for you because you have a family with this person, so people just telling you to leave should realize it is not that easy. I would try talking to her and see what is making her unhappy that she is lashing out at everyone else. I am assuming she wasnt always this way or you wouldnt be with her, so maybe there is a chance of getting things back the way they were. If nothing works then maybe you will have to leave her and try and be the best dad you can be. Hope everything works out.
2007-03-23 02:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her a_s down and have a heart to heart with her. Let her know that her screaming and yelling at the kids and you is not something you are going to continue to allow her to do. Tell her about your perception of her screaming like she is in a bar room fight. Also, if she is not interested in you, bedroom time ask her why you should continue to stay in the relationship. Put your foot down....you and the kids shouldn't have to live this way. One can get their point across without screaming. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 02:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a trauma there from her past that she has not dealt with. These traumatizations tend to get worse as they go untreated and as you get older.
She needs to see someone and getr to the core of what happened, perhaps she was sexually assaulted as a young woman, this may explain the anger and why there's no bedroom time.
2007-03-23 02:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is mean because she knows she can be and she know she can get away with it. You say she won't leave and she won't change, yet you remain there and take it and allow her to not only verbally abuse you but your daughter also. Time to stand firm and gain your self respect back.
2007-03-23 02:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes stressed, got some problems of her own and shes just taking it out on you by mistake. Why don't you sit in a quiet room with her and talk things out. Spend some time with her. Good luck.
2007-03-23 02:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is so mean because she is unhappy with herself. It sounds like she needs to work on her personal issues with a counselor and then maybe she can have a good relationship with her daughter and you.
2007-03-23 02:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by baby girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your the man and it is your job to do something, for your children and your marriage. Tell her she is going to stop acting this way, plead with ehr if you have to and let her know the behavior is noticed but unacceptable. offer to help with counseling or whatever ans see if she is willing to fix it, if not i suggest you get divorced and file a suit for custody of the kids . they dont need to be with her if she is going to treat them badly
2007-03-23 02:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your still there ?...Turn on some nice Road music, and travel on down the road,..oh ! And don,t look back.
2007-03-23 02:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by ThomasL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger managment issues... usually people who are mean have HUGE issues.. to resolve.. find her trigger... something if u look hard enough there will be a common trigger which sets her off find it!!
2007-03-23 02:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋