I have a friend who is quite immature for her age and always seems to laugh at the slightest thing possible. She doesn't ever take things seriously and recently, I have gone through a bought of depression. My friend has started making crass jokes about self-harming and as a self-harmer myself, I find it really offensive that she is saying this stuff. She doesn't know I am self-harming, but I find it really upsetting that she is laughing and joking about something as serious as this. I don't know what to do as I just feel so angry and upset that she is joking about this matter. Should I confront her?? What should I do??
2007-03-23 02:14:50 · 17 answers · asked by hunny_bun15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her to go away for ever, she is no friend she is just a pain in your butt.
you would be much better off without her around.
2007-03-23 02:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you don't seem to be getting the help and support you need from your friend but please don't write it off as her being deliberately disresepectful, sit her down and explain to her just how serious an issue, mental health and self harming are and if you feel up to it tell her about yourself and that you would appreciate her support in your life.
Good Luck with this and everything else you have going on in your life at the moment
2007-03-23 09:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, maturity is the matter of time and the way she has been brought up and the culture she has grew up. as she will grow elder and elder the maturity will come to herself automatically and most important thing is that if you are matured it seems she is accompanied with a mature person. As you the problem with her to not taking things seriously and not to behave according to situation and condition so don’t get hurt while she said some nonsensible things just get her alone and talk to her that what unwanted and unnecessary thighs had done. Make her promised that not to repeat.
2007-03-23 09:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by sumi_decent_mercy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be possible that its her way of encouraging you. probably she understands your problem, and is trying to make you realise that you are self-harming yourself for a very foolish reason. She probably wants you to laugh over it to make you get over with it. Different people have different ways of motivating their friends, but if you misinterprete their action, it can cause harm to your relationship.
It might also be possible that indeed she is immature as you said. Someone uneducated. If thats the case, then you should tell her about your emotions regarding her actions. If she doesn't understand, then she's not your friend.
2007-03-23 09:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with a friend like that you don't need an enemy.
I would walk away from her as she is no friend. Surely she knows you have been depressed and that to joke about self-harming is not appropriate. Unless of course she is worried about it and trying to make a joke of it to see your reaction????
Find new friends hun. Hope you are feeling better.
2007-03-23 10:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is immature she probably wont realise the remarks she makes offend,you could point this out to her in a calm way.look towards spending time with a support network that can help you.if you realise that selfharming is serious you have without knowing it made the first step to recovery.talk to your doctor or try and contact a self harming group that can help you overcome this distressing problem
2007-03-23 09:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she's a happy person and her defense mechinism is to laugh.. You shouldn't get mad at her for stuff she doesn't realize she's doing.. If you want her to stop, just ask her to. If you don't want to tell her that you are a self-harmer, then say you know someone like that and it hurts when she brings it up..
2007-03-23 09:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
C'mon, Don't Tease Me! Go Get Me Some Liqourice. Then We'll Talk Things Through!
2007-03-23 09:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your best friend, then as imatur u may think she is, she will probly understand if you tell her the truth and tell her how upset you are. She cant help it if she doenst know can she?
Good luck!! dont harm your self!! plz!!
2007-03-23 09:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel. If she says anything bad and doesn't care about what you have to say she's not a real frined. Friends are people that know you. If your friends don't treat you like friends should don't bother to be with them.
2007-03-23 09:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by ilikecheesechan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her and cut down your closeness to her but make it clear to her that you are still her friend -- just her behavior that upsets you.
2007-03-23 10:27:02 · answer #11 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋