she left last sunday afternoon and came back thursday my girls think i should let her back .but this is not the first time she has done somthing like this once she kicked me out and had some dude at the house living there my mom and best friend say no my youngest daughters temper suddenly showed back up as soon as she showed back up any help is needed thanks
2007-03-23 02:10:45 · 11 answers · asked by skippywantsit2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO , don't let her back in. She has to be accountable for her actions. Do allow visits with daughters. Sounds like you have a history of problems, file for divorce and claim abandonment by her. Don't know your background , but don't give up your daughters , and don't let their mom keep setting a horrible example for them.
2007-03-23 02:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that after you two have completed marriage counseling and the counselor feels you have reached a healthy relationship level that you not let her move back in. She is not only hurting you, she is hurting the children and confusing them with the mixed signals. Young children blame themselves often when a parent leaves, so you need to reassure the girls it is mom, not them that is the reason for leaving. From what you wrote, she seeks you out only when you can help her. That is not love, that is dependence. If you feel there is anything worth salvaging, try counseling; if not, get a lawyer and make sure you declare legally abandonment of you and the kids. That will protect you and the girls from her getting to move back in and get custody as well as you eventually having to move out. I would also suggest setting up counseling for the girls. Anger/temper is often a sign of fear and lashing out because the child feels her world is out of her control.
2007-03-23 02:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about all the problems you've been having but you really need to think things through, sounds like your wife is only thinking about herself and I don't think she's thinking of you or the kids. You need to be the adult here and stand your ground. Yes the kids are going to give you a hard time and she's counting on that but she is not what you need anymore and I think you know this. So do the smart thing and let her go. It will be hard at first but it will get better for you and the kids in the long run. Best Of Luck.
2007-03-23 02:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let her back in the door, make sure that it's on the condition that you seek family counseling.
Her behavior doesn't just effect your marriage, it's starting to show in how your children behave as well. That puts the issue firmly in the realm of "unacceptable" unless she agrees to get counseling.
If she won't do it, my advice is to give yourself some distance with a trial separation. How she behaves and what she does in that time will show you whether you can work things out, or if an ending is approaching.
2007-03-23 02:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she has a pattern of doing disrespectful things to u, no she doesn't deserve to be let back in. personally unless u want a lifetime of this u need to divorce her. listen to your mom she knows best. she just came back because all was not well with the new guy she hooked up with. there should be consequences for her actions, but unless u want more of the same from her, u need to get out of this.
2007-03-23 06:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE.BOTTOM LINE-DO YOU WANT TO LIVE LIKE THIS THE REST OF YOUR LIFE???IT IS TIME TO TELL HER "THAT'S IT.LIFE IS NOT A GAME ESPECIALLY WITH CHILDREN INVOLVED."TIME TO GO BABY!!!BE A MAN AND TAKE A STAND THAT THIS IS REALLY IT.MOVE ON TO A GREENER PASTEUR.THERE COULD BE HAPPINESS THERE FOR YOU BUT YOU HAVE TO TAKE THE STAND AND MAKE THE DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE .EXPLAIN TO YOUR GIRLS THAT THIS CAN'T GO ON ANYMORE.IT IS DAMAGING TO EVERYONE.IF YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE THEN TELL HER ABOUT COUNSELLING BUT IF YOU DON'T'THEN A DIVORCE IS BEST.KEEP IT AMICABLE AND GOOD LUCK
2007-03-23 02:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by wolverine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her, why make her life easy. don't let her think she move out and go bang whatever dude she wants and then come home. she doesn't care about you, only what is best for her. so tell her f off
2007-03-23 03:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should she not move back in, but you need to divorce this woman and seek custody of your children. But you already knew that.
2007-03-23 02:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch this ***** ! she is a liar and a cheat! tell her to go back to her boyfriend,and seek legal advice.
2007-03-23 02:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partner, don't enable this Woman, she needs professional help......DUMP HER COMPLETELY.
2007-03-23 02:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋