i cant help wanting to be pregnant and have a baby.. i just have so much love to give and a baby would just brighten my life. i dont know how else to explain the need i have to be a mother. does anyone else feel this way? advice from others trying to concieve? thank you
2007-03-23 01:59:29 · 19 answers · asked by Krystina G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. It tells me that you would be a great mother but, I think you know that you need to wait until you are older and better prepared for the lifelong committment a child will bring. I am sure that right now you are very young to be thinking of having a baby. I figure you aren't older than 16 and I don't want to discourage you just think you should wait.
My wife cried when she found out that she couldn't have anymore children (we have 7) she felt that was the one thing she did really well but, I told her that now she could concentrate on loving the ones we had even more. I'm sure that you have a lot of love to give but, share it with the family you already have and I promise you it will grow.
2007-03-23 02:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things you must be able give the baby before you get pregnant. You must not think of yourself, in this matter you must thing of the welfare of the baby. Some questions I have are: Are you married and can you provide an emotionally stable environment for the baby? Do you have a home for the baby? Does your husband have an income that will allow you to stay home and nurture the baby at least until you can get back to work? Can you afford day care or provide a care giver if you work? Every normal person wants to be a parent, that's what continues the species - procreation. Just make sure you can provide physical and emotional needs for the baby. If not, don't get pregnant until you can afford to have the baby.
2007-03-23 02:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I was 10 weeks pregnant when I had a miscarriage in feb '07. Even after the miscarriage I still like I need to be pregnant & see some others around me that are. I can't wait to start trying again soon. I have always wanted to me a mother for the longest time. Everyone tells me that I'm good with children and how I'll make a great mother when I have one of my own. I just keep telling myself that I will be blessed one day with an angel of my own.
2007-03-23 02:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's bad at all. It's just one of the feelings we girls start to have as we grow up. It's the need to give love, share love and nurture someone. Or perhaps a way of compensating the mistakes we had as a child so we do it on our children. It really gives us a feeling of accomplishment knowing that we could raise good children. Even with these words, I still find it hard to define that warm fuzzy feeling or need for us to have children. But anyways, rest assured, you are not alone in this one. Go, you!
2007-03-23 02:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ichigo14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you....I have been in your situation i have tried for 5 years to get pregnant. We have finally been blessed with a wonderful happy little girl! We had to slow down and stop trying so hard to get pregnant.. That is hard to do because you want it so much. We both ended up seeing a doctor to help us conceive but, in the end we managed it all on our own. We were surprised because we had stopped trying so hard to concieve and then a few days before we went to a specialist i found out the good news! Good Luck! My prayers are with you. When God believes you are ready he will bless you.
2007-03-23 02:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Amber G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often young people want to become parents to show someone the love and devotion that they feel the never received. They often feel as though they can prove that they are worthy as a parent. Know your value is not based on how others treat you.
You have to make sure you can love and take care of yourself first and foremost. That will be your ultimate test as a mom. You will have to be the role model for your child. Take care of yourself and prepare for motherhood by achieving greatness in yourself before you attempt to create greatness in another.
It is not the best decision to have unprotected sex with the intention of getting pregnant...you may get something you may not have expected (STDs, HIV, etc...)
If you are someone who is emotionally & financially secure and have a stable committed relationship...take your time to cultivate your family connections before you become a mom. I noticed in one of your other questions you said you were 17 take your time...that would be my suggestion.
You may want to commit to becoming a volunteer in a neonatal unit in a hospital. They often need people to sit, sing, talk to and love babies who are drug addicted or born with birth defects and some that are just premature. Studies show that these babies become healthy faster if they are held and carressed and nurished with love. Good luck to you no matter what path you choose.
2007-03-23 02:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is not a toy. You may think it will brighten your life, but once it starts howling and you have no idea why and it goes on...and on.....and on, you'll think differently.
By all means have a child because it's time, you have the means to support it and you have a loved one to share your joy with, but if it's to make you feel better, I can assure you it won't.
2007-03-23 02:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After TTC with my ex for 6 years, I was more than shocked to fall pregnant after only 3 months with my fiance'. I thought my body was useless and broken and that my dreams of motherhood would never eventuate.
Just believe that all things happen in their own time, not yours. (unfortunately) You will become a mother, trust your instincts.
Turn off the computer and go make a baby! :)
2007-03-23 02:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are properly married it is most natural for you to want to be a mother. A baby in your married state will get the best kind of love ever... from both parents. But if you are single and just want a baby for companionship, you are just trying to cure your loneliness. Your baby might not get the kind of love it deserves.
2007-03-23 02:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Shit Ban 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old you are and if you are ready for the responsibilities that come along with a kid....there is the money and if you are still in school you would have to quit and that is not good on when you are trying to get a job.....and definitely be ready for the stay up all night nights just think about it there is a lot of responsibility
2007-03-23 02:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋